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gemini8 posted 4/5/2014 17:52 PM

Having A Hard Time Today With Constantly Comparing Myself To The OW. I Walked In On Them So I Just Keep Picturing It . Then Asking What Did She Do Differently That Was So Great? Did He Learn Things From Her That He Used On Me? Was Sex Better With Her? WH Answers These QuestionsWith No And Absolutely Not. You Are Amazing. She's Nothing To Me. But Obviously He Is Going To Say That. I Just Wanted To Vent Here Instead of Being In My Own Head For A Little While.
On A Different Note WH Is Talking To Me ConstantLy. He Is AN Open Book. He Has Cried And Talked So Much About His Love For Me And How He Was Lost And Now He Sees Everything He Has Been Missing With Me ..I'm Almost Starting To Believe It..So There's That..

Adeahan posted 4/5/2014 17:56 PM

it is hard right *hug* my wife is doing the same thing right now, she agrees to anything i sat her down last night and asked her to tell me everything that happened right from the start and look into my eyes while she did it, not the most fun things i had to hear, she cried and broke down and it was really hard, the question is, do we believe them? are they only sorry because they got caught? could it of kept going if we didnt catch them? questions we need to ask yourselves and work through it.

kiki1 posted 4/5/2014 18:02 PM

hugs gemini.

she wasnt better than yoou, she was just available. im sorry you had to see what you did. how awful! dont pay much mind to what he says right now. watch and see what he does. words mean nothing.
take care of yourself

standinghere posted 4/5/2014 20:06 PM

We all go there, thinking that the other person was somehow something we are not.

The truth is, they are, they are two things that we are not. But it is not what we think about, it is what we don't understand.

The OM or OW is available to do what they did, and is willing to do it, that is it, nothing more.

Your spouse was the same and all that happened was that two of those people ran into each other, both who fit that bill of qualifications, and you have an affair.

It may be hard to understand, nearly impossible to believe, but that is all there is to it.

freeatlast72 posted 4/5/2014 21:37 PM

Your spouse was the same and all that happened was that two of those people ran into each other, both who fit that bill of qualifications, and you have an affair.

This is so true. Please do not compare yourself to OW-- it is not even a comparison! She has no morals! Opportunity presented itself....

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