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Dobegirl posted 4/7/2014 12:46 PM

Today I finally got the courage to file for D. We are doing this without lawyers. It took less than 30 minutes to file and 17 months to get to finally accept my marriage will never be the same.

I have printed the papers out about as much as I have kicked him out and taken him back. It has been a long rollercoaster ride and I want off! He still thinks we can work this out. Ummmm... no!

The man I love is dead. I have never looked at him the same since Dday. Gosh knows I tried. He stole the innocence out of this marriage. And it is something we will never get back. He has changed me. I have come to terms with all of this finally.

If all goes well it will be final in 2ish months.

Now to go drown my sorrows for the night in a bottle of wine....or two

Vulcanized posted 4/7/2014 13:03 PM

(((Dobe)))

strongerdaybyday posted 4/7/2014 13:12 PM

(((Dobegirl)))

I understand completely because this:

The man I love is dead. I have never looked at him the same since Dday. Gosh knows I tried. He stole the innocence out of this marriage. And it is something we will never get back. He has changed me

is how I feel.

woundedby2 posted 4/7/2014 18:46 PM

(((Dobe)))

You gave it your best, but a marriage cannot be reconciled with just one actively participating in R.

Wishing you all the best.

gypsybird87 posted 4/7/2014 18:49 PM

((dobegirl))

Good for you for taking back control of your life. It's painful and it's hard, but it's worth it.

Cheers, and enjoy that glass of wine!

Dobegirl posted 4/8/2014 19:30 PM

Thank you everyone

Had myself a good cry last night. Never thought we would be D.

I did give it my best shot, although, according to him, he says I never tried or gave him a chance. Whatever! If that was the case I would have filed a long time ago.

Yes gypsyb it is time to take back my life. I've straddled this fence for to long now. I can't believe it's been 17 months this nightmare has gone on.

I think the fact that I took him back after a 3 month separation and he showed his ugliness to me in 3 days showed me it just wasn't going to work. Plus the fact he immediately ran down to the bar where his A started really showed me. He admitted he did that to piss me off. Yup! It sure did!

So far all is quiet. We are still living together. He is being extremely nice knowing I have filed. Although he has not been officially served. Hope it stays that way....

Tripletrouble posted 4/8/2014 20:46 PM

((dobe)). Sleep in peace knowing you did all you could. Two months of white knuckles and you're done.

nowiknow23 posted 4/8/2014 20:50 PM

((((Dobe))))

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