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Trying to stay calm so I had to tell someone to relieve my excitement and I knew you guys would understand....

BH and I are going on a date night!!!

I got tickets for my birthday last month to see Derren Brown live. For those who don't know who he is, he's a British illusionist/magician/hypnotist, the UK version of David Blaine. Anyway, I got two tickets but I had kind of written it off thinking that it wasn't the right time. But BH said he would like to go with me!

My mum is coming down to watch the kids and I get a few child free hours which is a luxury in itself. I'm really looking forward to it but at the same time trying not to read too much into it.

That's great! Sending good thoughts for a night of reconnection and warm hearts .

Thanks, AC

Yay! Enjoy the night off from the kids & out together. :)

Thank you :)

Really need a night off, the youngest still doesn't sleep through... he's two!

That is awesome. Have fun.

How'd the night go?? Hope the two of you had a great time together!!!

I don't think she's been yet:)

BBT wishing you well. Not a great fan of Derren B but a huge fan of steps forward. Enjoy yourself

[This message edited by Sparkle0504 at 8:32 AM, April 8th (Tuesday)]

OOOPS! Sorry; I guess I was excited too :)

This is great news! Thanks for sharing that.

Thanks for the well wishes everyone :)

Had a great IC session today. My C says is really pleased with my progress so far, she's been a C for 35 years and says I am 'extraordinary'.
I splashed out on a new outfit for the date night too. I rarely buy myself things so it feels like a real treat.

Feeling really positive this week, making the most of the 'up' while it lasts.

This is nice to read. I hope you have a great night out together.

Congratulations on your date night!

Update.

Date night went (sort of) well.

I was very nervous and spent about three hours getting ready. I have small children so can normally be ready in less than five! It was nice to have time to pamper myself a little.
BH turned up in jeans and t-shirt and barely glanced at me. When we were in the car I joked about my nerves and how long it took me to get ready. His reply was 'you look different, you look nice but that's why it's bad'. I don't even know what that is supposed to mean??!

The show was amazing, we both really enjoyed it. There was a stupid joke at the beginning about statistics, 2000 people in the theatre so 14 members of the audience would currently be engaged in extramarital affairs. I died a little inside at that but I reached out and squeezed BH's hand, he responded by giving me a kiss!

It was relaxed and chatty, a bit flirty. We had fun! When we got home we shared some kisses and wonderful cuddles, I did ask BH to stay but he seemed really conflicted (it looked like he was arguing with himself, as if his heart wanted to but his head said otherwise) so he left. If I'm honest I was gutted but it's important he's comfortable and we had a nice night so I didn't want to push him.

Baby steps.

[This message edited by BrokenButTrying at 3:44 AM, April 12th (Saturday)]

He was probably as nervous as you BBT. It's almost like a courtship and doing things steadily and "properly". As you say, baby steps. But they seem like good ones.

Personally would've preferred a bit of Lee Evans meself

(((BBT)))

It made my day to read this!! I've followed your journey and must say I literally giggled at your update when I read that he kissed you! That could of been an awful trigger, but you knew to quickly to comfort him and it was worth it. Hope the days to follow show more positive tidbits from this baby step.