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User Topic: Excited
BrokenButTrying
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Default  Posted: 3:04 PM, April 7th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Trying to stay calm so I had to tell someone to relieve my excitement and I knew you guys would understand....

BH and I are going on a date night!!!

I got tickets for my birthday last month to see Derren Brown live. For those who don't know who he is, he's a British illusionist/magician/hypnotist, the UK version of David Blaine. Anyway, I got two tickets but I had kind of written it off thinking that it wasn't the right time. But BH said he would like to go with me!

My mum is coming down to watch the kids and I get a few child free hours which is a luxury in itself. I'm really looking forward to it but at the same time trying not to read too much into it.


Me - 27
Him - 27
Madhatters

My Ddays - Jan 2010 & 12/04/14
His Dday - 23/12/13

Chin up. Unwavering. Fight. I can do this.


Posts: 1261 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: UK
authenticnow
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Default  Posted: 3:33 PM, April 7th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's great! Sending good thoughts for a night of reconnection and warm hearts .


Take up your space (and do it well).

"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."


Posts: 38627 | Registered: Sep 2007
BrokenButTrying
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Default  Posted: 4:11 PM, April 7th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks, AC


Me - 27
Him - 27
Madhatters

My Ddays - Jan 2010 & 12/04/14
His Dday - 23/12/13

Chin up. Unwavering. Fight. I can do this.


Posts: 1261 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: UK
splitintwo
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Default  Posted: 4:51 PM, April 7th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yay! Enjoy the night off from the kids & out together. :)


BH: 42
WW: 37
LTA ended Jan. 1, 2014; NC started in April.
Married 17 years.
No DDay; this, like all of life's decisions, is a work in progress.

My best thinking brought me to SI.


Posts: 213 | Registered: Mar 2014
BrokenButTrying
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Default  Posted: 5:26 PM, April 7th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you :)

Really need a night off, the youngest still doesn't sleep through... he's two!


Me - 27
Him - 27
Madhatters

My Ddays - Jan 2010 & 12/04/14
His Dday - 23/12/13

Chin up. Unwavering. Fight. I can do this.


Posts: 1261 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: UK
badchoice
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Default  Posted: 6:06 PM, April 7th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That is awesome. Have fun.


Me: fWH/BH 46

Separated transitioning to D


Posts: 730 | Registered: May 2012 | From: L.A.
Neverwudaguessed
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Default  Posted: 8:28 AM, April 8th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

How'd the night go?? Hope the two of you had a great time together!!!


BW: 44 Me
WH:48
DDay1 9-9-13 (18th Wedding Anniversary) 6 wk EA, 1 wk PA
DDay2: 10-25-13 EA/PA with same OW 12 1/2 years ago for 3 months
OW: XGF Predator who never stopped pursuing WH
DS 13
DD 11

Posts: 731 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: New York
Sparkle0504
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Default  Posted: 8:31 AM, April 8th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't think she's been yet:)

BBT wishing you well. Not a great fan of Derren B but a huge fan of steps forward. Enjoy yourself

[This message edited by Sparkle0504 at 8:32 AM, April 8th (Tuesday)]


Me 44 (BS) Him 52 (SAWH)
DDay (too many to mention), but 1st 06/2011

The truth hurts, but nowhere near as much as the lies
"Sounds harsh, but she's my wife and I'm supposed to be there when she's having sex" Sal1995


Posts: 246 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: England
Neverwudaguessed
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Default  Posted: 8:45 AM, April 8th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OOOPS! Sorry; I guess I was excited too :)


BW: 44 Me
WH:48
DDay1 9-9-13 (18th Wedding Anniversary) 6 wk EA, 1 wk PA
DDay2: 10-25-13 EA/PA with same OW 12 1/2 years ago for 3 months
OW: XGF Predator who never stopped pursuing WH
DS 13
DD 11

Posts: 731 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: New York
Prayingforhope
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Default  Posted: 12:38 PM, April 8th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is great news! Thanks for sharing that.


WH 41
BS 40
D-Day Oct 28th, 2013
Together 18 years
Three amazing boys 12, 9 & 6
Praying for hope daily

Posts: 260 | Registered: Dec 2013
BrokenButTrying
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Default  Posted: 7:31 PM, April 8th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks for the well wishes everyone :)

Had a great IC session today. My C says is really pleased with my progress so far, she's been a C for 35 years and says I am 'extraordinary'.
I splashed out on a new outfit for the date night too. I rarely buy myself things so it feels like a real treat.

Feeling really positive this week, making the most of the 'up' while it lasts.


Me - 27
Him - 27
Madhatters

My Ddays - Jan 2010 & 12/04/14
His Dday - 23/12/13

Chin up. Unwavering. Fight. I can do this.


Posts: 1261 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: UK
heartbroken0903
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Default  Posted: 7:33 PM, April 8th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is nice to read. I hope you have a great night out together.


Me: XWS, 30s, 5-month EA/PA in '09-'10
Husband: XBS, 40s
No kids

Married 2.5 years
D-day 3/6/10
Divorced 5/14/10

We remarried in 2014.


Posts: 2315 | Registered: Mar 2010 | From: the cat's meow
KBeguile
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Default  Posted: 6:31 AM, April 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congratulations on your date night!


Me: fWS 32
Her: BS 35 (HeartInADustpan)
DS: 4yo
M: 7 years
DDays: 2012/11/14, 2013/02/05, 2013/03/09
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"Everything that happens now is happening 'now.'"
"What happened to 'then'?"
"We passed 'then.'"

Posts: 802 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: St. Louis
BrokenButTrying
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Default  Posted: 3:36 AM, April 12th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Update.

Date night went (sort of) well.

I was very nervous and spent about three hours getting ready. I have small children so can normally be ready in less than five! It was nice to have time to pamper myself a little.
BH turned up in jeans and t-shirt and barely glanced at me. When we were in the car I joked about my nerves and how long it took me to get ready. His reply was 'you look different, you look nice but that's why it's bad'. I don't even know what that is supposed to mean??!

The show was amazing, we both really enjoyed it. There was a stupid joke at the beginning about statistics, 2000 people in the theatre so 14 members of the audience would currently be engaged in extramarital affairs. I died a little inside at that but I reached out and squeezed BH's hand, he responded by giving me a kiss!

It was relaxed and chatty, a bit flirty. We had fun! When we got home we shared some kisses and wonderful cuddles, I did ask BH to stay but he seemed really conflicted (it looked like he was arguing with himself, as if his heart wanted to but his head said otherwise) so he left. If I'm honest I was gutted but it's important he's comfortable and we had a nice night so I didn't want to push him.

Baby steps.

[This message edited by BrokenButTrying at 3:44 AM, April 12th (Saturday)]


Me - 27
Him - 27
Madhatters

My Ddays - Jan 2010 & 12/04/14
His Dday - 23/12/13

Chin up. Unwavering. Fight. I can do this.


Posts: 1261 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: UK
Sparkle0504
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Default  Posted: 12:04 PM, April 12th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He was probably as nervous as you BBT. It's almost like a courtship and doing things steadily and "properly". As you say, baby steps. But they seem like good ones.

Personally would've preferred a bit of Lee Evans meself


Me 44 (BS) Him 52 (SAWH)
DDay (too many to mention), but 1st 06/2011

The truth hurts, but nowhere near as much as the lies
"Sounds harsh, but she's my wife and I'm supposed to be there when she's having sex" Sal1995


Posts: 246 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: England
wheredoigo
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Default  Posted: 1:01 PM, April 12th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((BBT)))

It made my day to read this!! I've followed your journey and must say I literally giggled at your update when I read that he kissed you! That could of been an awful trigger, but you knew to quickly to comfort him and it was worth it. Hope the days to follow show more positive tidbits from this baby step.


1st marriage BS to xSAWH (34)
WW-2nd marriage (me) 33 to BS(Jt8d) 36
It's important to heal yourself in a healthy way from all hurt or it will hurt you and the ones you love more than the original hurt before.

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