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MelisssaZZZ posted 4/8/2014 05:50 AM

I have been divorced for around 4 years now. As most of people (as in divorce there are no winners - everyone loses in my opinion) have been struggling finacially for a while.

By wieghting various options - e.g. cost cutting/ changing lifestyle. and even trying some of it. I came to conclusion taht i really, really did not like that. so had to find another option to survive, meaning to survive better and not to lose the lifestyle which came from double income (and approx 60% of income was xWH).

So i got onto journey and got myself into property development/ design (whilst of course still being fully employed). So, i got my first property to develop April last year. And sold it yesterday. I am making much more now to what we did with xWH combined. And have my next project ready and starting today, which I expect will give me even more financial gain once finished.

so, hurray - this is doable. of course it has taken me time/ courage and it has not been an easy road - but clearly - its possible and doable.

Now, when i am on the right track with regards to finances, I have been thinking about my other dream.

My other dream is to have a 2nd child.

my dating has not been very sucessful, or lets face it - very unsuccesful / non existant. I weighted my options. And asked xwh if he would like to have a 2nd child with me. He said yes in principle.

I just thought - i have had such a bad expierence in dealings with men and my picker is so bad (clearly). i might as well stick with dealing with 1 (rather then to find another man to be a father, who could be much worse than ex). and my dd would have biological brother or sister.

So, as soon as my new project gets on track, i will focus on baby nr 2.

life is very different to what i had always imagined. but its not bad. its actually pretty good :).

just wanted to say - your dreams are for you to realise :)! and it is possible, maybe not always the way you imagined, but if you are flexible you nd up fulfilling the dreams..

NaiveAgain posted 4/8/2014 06:43 AM

That is awesome. It is really neat how you have found unconventional ways to make your life what you want it to be.

Congratulations on the sale of your first property!

better4me posted 4/8/2014 08:27 AM

taking control of your destiny. Love it!

nowiknow23 posted 4/8/2014 09:52 AM

Congratulations, Melisssa!

Williesmom posted 4/8/2014 20:03 PM

Yay! I'm happy for you.

persevere posted 4/8/2014 20:19 PM

That is WONDERFUL! Great job and congrats!!!

I changed careers which greatly improved my income, empty nested, sold and bought a house all within a few months of each other - it was stressful, but it's working out pretty well at this point.