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New Beginnings :
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 MelisssaZZZ (original poster member #25953) posted at 11:50 AM on Tuesday, April 8th, 2014

I have been divorced for around 4 years now. As most of people (as in divorce there are no winners - everyone loses in my opinion) have been struggling finacially for a while.

By wieghting various options - e.g. cost cutting/ changing lifestyle. and even trying some of it. I came to conclusion taht i really, really did not like that. so had to find another option to survive, meaning to survive better and not to lose the lifestyle which came from double income (and approx 60% of income was xWH).

So i got onto journey and got myself into property development/ design (whilst of course still being fully employed). So, i got my first property to develop April last year. And sold it yesterday. I am making much more now to what we did with xWH combined. And have my next project ready and starting today, which I expect will give me even more financial gain once finished.

so, hurray - this is doable. of course it has taken me time/ courage and it has not been an easy road - but clearly - its possible and doable.

Now, when i am on the right track with regards to finances, I have been thinking about my other dream.

My other dream is to have a 2nd child.

my dating has not been very sucessful, or lets face it - very unsuccesful / non existant. I weighted my options. And asked xwh if he would like to have a 2nd child with me. He said yes in principle.

I just thought - i have had such a bad expierence in dealings with men and my picker is so bad (clearly). i might as well stick with dealing with 1 (rather then to find another man to be a father, who could be much worse than ex). and my dd would have biological brother or sister.

So, as soon as my new project gets on track, i will focus on baby nr 2.

life is very different to what i had always imagined. but its not bad. its actually pretty good :).

just wanted to say - your dreams are for you to realise :)! and it is possible, maybe not always the way you imagined, but if you are flexible you nd up fulfilling the dreams..

Me BS - 40
WH 42
1 child - 9y
married 5 yrs, together 7
DD1 midmarch 09
DD2 early june 09
some more DD's of course - cannot bother to list

Status: Divorced Oct 2011

Him: not with OW anymore. She grew up and ditched him..

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NaiveAgain ( member #20849) posted at 12:43 PM on Tuesday, April 8th, 2014

That is awesome. It is really neat how you have found unconventional ways to make your life what you want it to be.

Congratulations on the sale of your first property!

Original WS D-Day July 10, 2008. Kept lying, he is gone.
New WS (2 EA's, no PA) 12-3-13
If you don't like where you are, then change it. You are not a tree.

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better4me ( member #30341) posted at 2:27 PM on Tuesday, April 8th, 2014

taking control of your destiny. Love it!

DDay 11/17/2010 BW:58
Happily remarried!

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nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 3:52 PM on Tuesday, April 8th, 2014

Congratulations, Melisssa!

You can call me NIK

And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane

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Williesmom ( member #22870) posted at 2:03 AM on Wednesday, April 9th, 2014

Yay! I'm happy for you.

You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

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persevere ( member #31468) posted at 2:19 AM on Wednesday, April 9th, 2014

That is WONDERFUL! Great job and congrats!!!

I changed careers which greatly improved my income, empty nested, sold and bought a house all within a few months of each other - it was stressful, but it's working out pretty well at this point.

DDay:2011
Status: D 2011
Remarried to a kind and wonderful man - 2017

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K.

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