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aero1122 posted 4/8/2014 12:03 PM

I am 4 months from d-day and this is what I have learned:

1. I am stronger than I ever knew

2. I believe in myself

3. I am a good person who did not deserve this no matter how rough our relationship was before the A

4. My life was not as good as I thought it was but it will be better moving forward. I have removed my blinders and see things more clearly now

5. Taking time for myself is not selfish

6. I dont know how I would have gotten through this if I hadn't found this website. Everyone on here has been so supportive and open with their experiences and offering suggestions for coping and I greatly appreciate all of you

7. I am a survivor!

I know there is a lot of work to still to be done but this is where I am at today!

[This message edited by aero1122 at 12:05 PM, April 8th (Tuesday)]

struggling3 posted 4/8/2014 12:08 PM

Yay you have this knowledge after 4 months is such a great start to R. Are you getting help and support from your WS?

Steve55 posted 4/8/2014 12:18 PM


That should be our mantra on here. I know I need to do those things.

LeftOutintheCold posted 4/8/2014 12:22 PM

Yay!!! That is awesome!! Thank you for sharing. It gives me hope that I may make it as well.

aero1122 posted 4/8/2014 12:33 PM

I am getting support from my WH. We are working on us and moving forward with counseling and transparency.

I read something similar when I first found SI and
I thought how will I ever be there but I am well on my way to healing.

I know I am only 4 months out and still have bad days and triggers but I am getting better and know I will be ok as long as I continue on this path.

yme32313 posted 4/8/2014 13:03 PM

I learned time really does heal all wounds, I thought I'd never get my life back on track. I'm agree with your list as well. It took some time mine longer than yours but it did improve.

krispy47 posted 4/8/2014 13:48 PM

You have no idea how much hope this gives me. Thanks for your post. I hope I will be able to say the same someday.

NeverAgain2013 posted 4/8/2014 14:00 PM

Woo hoo! That's great!

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