MC has no suggestions...WTH?
He needs to get into IC, conflicat avoidance is a marriage killer. He needs to deal with his emotional issues before he is able to be a healthy partner for you.
You are probably blowing things out of the water because you feel overwhelmed. There are ways you could be processing better and communicating differently with your husband.
Have you considered IC for yourself?
At the very least I would get a new MC, if they cannot navigate the waters through an A you will be struggling with them.