ME Doing Better
Hi and hugs.
I just went off on OW
I recently HAD to break NC. My H has been NC since last year. But now and again "it" rears its ugly head and has to be put down. Most recently it began calling his cell phones again. He'd hang up and it would continue. Finally, it sent my H a text message stating that it was mad that H hangs up. I had no intention of ever involving myself, but did what I had to do.
She called to make him control my responses to their A
CAT, you do what is needed to protect yourself and your M. Keep in mind what you choose should be legal This looks like a bit of posturing on her part.
Question; did she leave a voice mail or did they have a conversation? My H inadvertently picked up his work cell without looking at caller id. The AP took that as a signal that he was interested in communicating. When he hung up she went Ape S--T and I had to handle things.
I am trying to R with FWH and she feels the need to intrude?
My H and I are trying to R our M. Successful R requires that you and your H be on the same page. In our situation, R becomes D if he willingly breaks NC. The AP can only intrude if he opens the door.
Where does she stop? How long does she hold not?
Some AP are out to win. "It" in my M has staying power. She is like a zicada bug. She goes underground and then comes out; when she thinks his guard is down.
I looked to my H to make me safe. NC is non-negotiable.
Hope my words help.
WH Trying As Best He Can
Married 24 years
Status: Working towards friendship
D Day #1 - 2007 My gut told me
D Day #2 - 2010 His D told me
D Day #3 - 1/11/2013 OW Confirmed
LTA 7 years
Both feet pointed forward; positive