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Reconciliation :
She messaged him, again

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 soloney (original poster member #42621) posted at 10:13 PM on Tuesday, April 8th, 2014

Immediately after discovering the A I thoroughly checked the phone records. Most of their communication had been through iMessage, they both have iPhones, and those do not show up in the phone records. I was only able to see one phone call. So I gave up one checking the phone records...

At the time I confronted him he send her a NC message. She responded the next day, he showed me the message right away and did not respond. A few months later she messaged him again, he showed me the message, did not respond. Then I found out about blocking numbers on the iPhone. I blocked her number on his phone.

Today I was checking the phone records for something unrelated and I found a text from her on Nov. 11. At the time the text was "received" we were on an airplane. Maybe it came through as a text because his phone was off. Or maybe it was because her number is blocked.

My WH says he never received that text. I believe him, he probably didn't receive it because the number is blocked, I just don't know how that works. But I feel like ugh, why is she still trying to bother him?

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betrayedhusband ( member #38443) posted at 10:26 PM on Tuesday, April 8th, 2014

Have him get a new number. If he really is NC with her, then she won't have a way to get his new number.

Me BS 48
Her fWW 47
Married 24 yrs
Together 30 yrs
DDay 16 Jan 2013
EA 9 months & PA 1 month
Children 2 young adults
Working through it
"Character is what you are when no one is watching"

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4everfaithful83 ( member #41761) posted at 12:23 AM on Wednesday, April 9th, 2014

I agree - Have him change his number and then also block her number still. That sucks!

Always know if the juice is worth the squeeze...

ME: 36
1 doggie
DDay: June 24th, 2013
DDay 2 : August 22nd,2017

Left him August 26th, 2017

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SoTired011114 ( member #43014) posted at 1:01 AM on Wednesday, April 9th, 2014

Block her number!! I don't know what cell carrier you have but we have verizon and you can block incoming and outgoing texts and calls to a number for 90 days(I think) at a time....

My WH changed his phone number and I have her blocked from our account...so she can't contact me or him whether somehow she gets his new number or not.

Me: BS
Him: WH
Married 6 years, together 9
DDay 1: 1/11/2014- internet/phone EA
DDay 2: 5/18/2017
Status:...............not sure

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mozzchops ( member #42896) posted at 9:51 AM on Wednesday, April 9th, 2014

It its blocked on iPhone he won't have got the txt.

Message me if your interested in snooping on iMessages...

The first time someone shows you who they are, believe them.

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betrayedhusband ( member #38443) posted at 12:12 PM on Wednesday, April 9th, 2014

While blocking the number may help,it isn't 100% fix.

She can always get a burner phone, use her friend's phone, text from the internet, call from a pay phone....

Change the number. If she figures that out, then you get to play detective and find out how she got his new number...him, one of his friends, ...

Me BS 48
Her fWW 47
Married 24 yrs
Together 30 yrs
DDay 16 Jan 2013
EA 9 months & PA 1 month
Children 2 young adults
Working through it
"Character is what you are when no one is watching"

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IamDyingInside ( member #41054) posted at 1:44 PM on Wednesday, April 9th, 2014

Hi Soloney, I dont own an iPhone but my kids do. Did you block the number before your trip on the airplane? I know that I message works off of Wifi or data plan and if neither is available, it comes through as a text. If on an airplane, it is highly unlikely the data plan worked and unless if he paid for onboard Wifi, that is unlikely also. So I assume it would have to come through as text. Now, if you blocked.it before your trip, that is an anomaly or is it possible he unblocked her number?

Me: BW (41)
Him: WH (41)
2 Daughters - 20 and 16
Married 19 years, together 24 years
DDay - 09/08/2013
NC - 10/10/13 Broken 10/11/13
I feel like we are both trying R but I am just so skeptical of everything!! Hell, I don't know much right

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