Immediately after discovering the A I thoroughly checked the phone records. Most of their communication had been through iMessage, they both have iPhones, and those do not show up in the phone records. I was only able to see one phone call. So I gave up one checking the phone records...
At the time I confronted him he send her a NC message. She responded the next day, he showed me the message right away and did not respond. A few months later she messaged him again, he showed me the message, did not respond. Then I found out about blocking numbers on the iPhone. I blocked her number on his phone.
Today I was checking the phone records for something unrelated and I found a text from her on Nov. 11. At the time the text was "received" we were on an airplane. Maybe it came through as a text because his phone was off. Or maybe it was because her number is blocked.
My WH says he never received that text. I believe him, he probably didn't receive it because the number is blocked, I just don't know how that works. But I feel like ugh, why is she still trying to bother him?