Do not expect in S/D what you didn't get in your M.
His need to attack is very very common - they all do it once they realise we're closing the bakery and that they've lost control of us.
You won't see it now but soon you'll see this shit as a gift - it will help you detach well before you would if he kept up his pretty words whilst continuing his ugly actions. That there is a mindfuck - this stuff is patently cruel so easy to see through.
((AlwaysTooNice)) but I know right now it hurts.
The sad clown took great joy in telling me he was ready to introduce his 17 years junior at 24 office gopher to my then almost 5 and 2 years olds as his GF a mere 20 weeks after S. She wasn't even DD OW so it was another post S DD. This after a 3m False R of "I'll do whatever it takes for as long as it takes" all the while behind those pretty words were some very ugly actions.