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jjsr posted 4/9/2014 08:18 AM

we finished MC after 2 and a half years. We are finished because the Army is moving us. I cried because we have gotten so much out of it and the MC is the one thing I like about living here. He told us that we are better then we think we are, we can call on him anytime even after we move. He believes once we leave here we will be even better.( FWH had his ONS here when the Army sent him here for a school, then we had to move here)
I don't think we are going to do more MC unless things get bad as I don't want to break a new one in and start all over. I think we are ready.

LivinginLimbo posted 4/9/2014 10:57 AM

2 years later and we're still going to MC. I know it has to end at some point, but I can understand how you'd like it to be on your own terms rather than because you're moving.

I wish you the best in moving forward on your own.

sisoon posted 4/9/2014 11:56 AM

here's the thing - if things start going bad and you want help, don't wait. The earlier you address an issue, the easier it is to resolve it.

but maybe part of what you got out of MC is a set of tools to resolve issues yourselves.

congrats.

peoplepleaser posted 4/9/2014 17:55 PM

I think it's great you want to do it on your own. I feel the need to caution you with that, though because the primary reason seems to be the move. I found it's much more difficult to admit you need to go back than you think it might be. We stopped once before (after EA 1 that occurred during MC, that I didn't know about at the time) because our MC moved and we didn't want to break in another one. Within a month or two I was requesting to go back, but WS refused. And a year and a half later I had my first DDay from her second EA. I'm not going to claim it would have stopped it, because she wasn't "in" therapy with me, as it turned out. But we might have at least had a chance.

However, if you feel good about it I wish you the best and hope it works out great for you.