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User Topic: and it feels so good...
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Default  Posted: 9:02 AM, April 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I recently moved back to the city I grew up - to be closer to my parents. S and most likely D has been really hard. The hardest decision I have ever made. I go from moments of relief to anxiety and panic. Anyway, I've felt about down about myself and myself esteem got stomped on after the Dday. But -- I have run into three ex-bf's (from high school - before I met H) and they've all said the same thing, "wow stronger you look amazing, you look great." and I know I shouldn't get my self esteem from someone and it comes from within (blah, blah, blah ) BUT DAMN it felt good. It was such an ego boost. I realized how I let my H hold me back. If I would want to wear my hair down or dress nice for work his attitude would be "which man are doing that for?" and I realized it was his own stupidity, low self esteem and fear that if he had an A I would too. I looked dumpy/frumpy for so long. Those 3 compliments made me realize how much of myself I let go of and let him control during the 10+ years we were together. I've come to the realization that S and D are not a actually feels really good.

Me-BW Him - WH
Married 6 years, together 15 years
3 awesome and beautiful children
OC discovered on Dday - born in 2005
D-Day Summer 2013

working towards D...I can't pretend anymore

**If I edit I'm correcting a typo!**

Posts: 509 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Canada
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Cool  Posted: 10:01 AM, April 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I love this post! Good for you. I see nothing wrong with being glad that these men saw you and responded positively to your new energy. You get to control you now--hallelujah. The more time goes by, the more this awesome feeling will predominate.

Sit. Feast on your life.

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Default  Posted: 10:32 AM, April 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Me- BS
Him- FWS (I hope- F)

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Default  Posted: 10:40 AM, April 9th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yay for feeling good!

You can call me NIK

This is it. The darkest day. The blackest hour. Chin up, shoulders back. Let's see what we're made of, you and I.
― The Doctor

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