I do find a difference in OW vs OM. In my experience and personally with a OW she was very very demanding. She was out to have a family with my wh. She thought it would be her dd and my kids with them. She was a evil woman. Telling me I had to share my wh. She would ask if we were having sex, if I was leaving him, she would call me the C*@t. That was her name for me. She looked up my public records or so she thought wrong person same name and told wh... So I got a call at work one day by him stating this that and the other and it was not even me, funny thing is he should have known it was not me as we were together at that time for 17 years.
She text me every time they were fighting stating that I could have him and that she wanted stuff back that she gave him.. I had no idea that she gave him this stuff as he told me he bought it or someone gave it to him.
She said he was her best friend ever (only 3 months of knowing him) lol.... How they talked about marriage and that we were getting a divorce. How he was very protective of her when they were out drinking... blah blah blah.... It never stopped and I was blamed for it all until I changed my phone number and she said she was going to call me and tell me everything.. he laughed because I changed my number and that is when he started to see her for what she was other than she was cheating on him with other co workers. But this went on for years.
I have never known a man to really want the MW I think for a man he knows the MW is no keeper for the long haul. Men don't want a HO for a woman. And most of the time when the challenge is over the A goes down the tubes and ends fast. Where OW's think they won a prize until the real life kicks in.
Either way.... They are all fucked up and to be honest, my wh is not in an A but he now has WH thinking...and that is why we are heading for the big D. The A either bought out what he always was or it did change him! They are both sick for how I was treated like I was nothing but a person to deliberately hurt!
DD 20 and DS 15
Separated Aug 2012
Moved back home Oct 31 2013
Separated again June 2014. Heading toward divorce.
False R. Still Lying.
"You never know how strong you are until being strong is all you have left"