I am wondering whether folks see differences in trends of behavior between male APs and female APs?
As I read posts from female SI'ers many of the comments talk about the OWs wanting to be visible in the XH's social/family circles. They are portrayed as overbearing and dominating the XH, and often wanting the BS to know that they won their XH.
When I read male SI'ers posts about their XW, I don't see that same description of the OMs. The OMs don't seem to be demanding a presence in the XWs social/family network. Generally it seems like they don't want the BS to know about them (I know my STBX's manfriend has avoided me...according to his wife he closed the blinds in their home on the morning after dday because he was afraid I would come over and tell her). Male SIers generally talk about their XWs as wanting to party and "live the life".
I am wondering if there is something to this difference in APs or whether the gender difference is in what we SIers choose to post about?