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hopefulfourus posted 4/9/2014 20:14 PM

I am waiting for the divorce papers to be served, hopefully this week. What I just don't get at all! is the lack of contact that POS has with our kids !

He comes and goes. Today, he came home at 730 pm, showered and left, all within an hour. My daughter and I were on our way out to the store when he walked in. He said hi to her and asked her where she was going. My son stayed home. When we came back from the store, he was gone already. I'm sure I could count the number of words exchanged between my son and POS on one hand.

I have been documenting his comings and goings, and contact, if any, with the kids.

I would miss my kids terribly if we hadn't spoken in days, not that would ever happen anyway. He is just a selfish jerk!

I just needed to get this off my chest. I don't like to wish my life away but I wish these papers would get served and he gets out of my house. Thanks for listening.

justinpaintoday posted 4/9/2014 20:27 PM

So sorry to you and your children. What a shame.

jo2love posted 4/9/2014 21:16 PM

(((hope & kids)))

norabird posted 4/9/2014 22:28 PM

I am so sorry. Your kids are lucky to have such a wonderful mom.

Nature_Girl posted 4/9/2014 22:59 PM

My kids marveled at all the time & attention their dad finally started showing them once I had him served. They hardly knew what to do with him.

Leia posted 4/9/2014 23:24 PM

I don't understand it, either. When my STBXWH was out of town he would hardly ever talk to the kids. Now he wants, and will probably get 50% custody. Before it was nothing for him to accept a 2-3 week out-of-town job. Now he's saying no more to those big jobs. And that he doesn't want to be away from the kids that long. It was hard, but the kids and I adjusted. So no, I don't get it, either. Hang in there. Hugs to you and your kids.

ChinaCat posted 4/9/2014 23:26 PM

Best wishes for you and your family!
I have no doubt you are doing the right thing!
((Hugs))

dmari posted 4/10/2014 01:01 AM

Ugh. I am so sorry. I really feel bad for your kids. I hope they are in IC so they don't internalize and blame themselves for stbx's behavior. It sounds like his head is so far up his ass, he doesn't see how his behavior is hurting the kids. I know because I've BTDT. Sending you "time speed" so he can be served and get the hell out of your house so you and the kids can turn it into a peaceful sanctuary.