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hopefulfourus (original poster member #25204) posted at 2:14 AM on Thursday, April 10th, 2014
I am waiting for the divorce papers to be served, hopefully this week. What I just don't get at all! is the lack of contact that POS has with our kids !
He comes and goes. Today, he came home at 730 pm, showered and left, all within an hour. My daughter and I were on our way out to the store when he walked in. He said hi to her and asked her where she was going. My son stayed home. When we came back from the store, he was gone already. I'm sure I could count the number of words exchanged between my son and POS on one hand.
I have been documenting his comings and goings, and contact, if any, with the kids.
I would miss my kids terribly if we hadn't spoken in days, not that would ever happen anyway. He is just a selfish jerk!
I just needed to get this off my chest. I don't like to wish my life away but I wish these papers would get served and he gets out of my house. Thanks for listening.
Me: BW. 40's
Him: WH POS. 40's
2 kids. DD16, DS14
Don't let my user name fool you...I am NOT hopeful for us at ALL!!
justinpaintoday ( member #42858) posted at 2:27 AM on Thursday, April 10th, 2014
So sorry to you and your children. What a shame.
I never realized you could be in this much pain and not be dying.
jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 3:16 AM on Thursday, April 10th, 2014
norabird ( member #42092) posted at 4:28 AM on Thursday, April 10th, 2014
I am so sorry. Your kids are lucky to have such a wonderful mom.
Nature_Girl ( member #32554) posted at 4:59 AM on Thursday, April 10th, 2014
My kids marveled at all the time & attention their dad finally started showing them once I had him served. They hardly knew what to do with him.
Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU
Leia ( member #42510) posted at 5:24 AM on Thursday, April 10th, 2014
I don't understand it, either. When my STBXWH was out of town he would hardly ever talk to the kids. Now he wants, and will probably get 50% custody. Before it was nothing for him to accept a 2-3 week out-of-town job. Now he's saying no more to those big jobs. And that he doesn't want to be away from the kids that long. It was hard, but the kids and I adjusted. So no, I don't get it, either. Hang in there. Hugs to you and your kids.
"Somebody get this walking carpet out of my way." Princess Leia, Star Wars
ChinaCat ( member #42797) posted at 5:26 AM on Thursday, April 10th, 2014
Best wishes for you and your family!
I have no doubt you are doing the right thing!
((Hugs))
"Every time I stay out late; every time I sleep in; every time I miss a workout; every time I don't give 100% - I make it that much easier for him to beat me!"
Me: BS & Beautiful!
dmari ( member #37215) posted at 7:01 AM on Thursday, April 10th, 2014
Ugh. I am so sorry. I really feel bad for your kids. I hope they are in IC so they don't internalize and blame themselves for stbx's behavior. It sounds like his head is so far up his ass, he doesn't see how his behavior is hurting the kids. 
I know because I've BTDT. Sending you "time speed" so he can be served and get the hell out of your house so you and the kids can turn it into a peaceful sanctuary.
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