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Jessy1501 (original poster member #24483) posted at 4:39 AM on Thursday, April 10th, 2014
This day, 5 years ago, my life changed forever. I had my first Dday. 4 years ago, exactly one year after my first Dday, I found out my XH was still cheating on me with the OW and continued their four year LTA. On that day, I told him it was over. I have not seen him again since I told him to leave MY house four years ago.
He called, he texted, he cried. I never gave back in. Four years later, he is still with the OW. I should be angry and bitter about that, but I am not. Every day I am thankful for the fact that the situation I was so suddenly thrown in to without consent allowed me to open up my eyes and see the person he really was....not the person that I tried to make him in to for so many years. The person that I wanted for him to be. I thank the OW because if it wasn't for her, I might still be stuck in a dead end marriage. I now see it as a blessing, very well disguised.
It is not an experience or situation that I wish on anybody because I went to hell and back. I was weak five years ago, but I became stronger than ever four years ago. I will never allow myself to be at that weak, dark place that I found myself in.
I thank SI and all of my friends here who supported me and were with me every step of the way. I could not have gotten to the point that I am at today without you guys. Today I am happy, alive and thriving with my new life. Thank you! 
[This message edited by Jessy1501 at 10:40 PM, April 9th (Wednesday)]
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Deeply Scared ( Administrator #2) posted at 4:52 AM on Thursday, April 10th, 2014
(((Jessy)))
You're the bad ass chick I love to see here 
I'm so happy *you're* happy...you deserve so many good things life has to offer.
Never settle for less 
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)
My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.
Breezy150 ( member #42421) posted at 5:18 AM on Thursday, April 10th, 2014
I am so glad to read this, it helps me remember that no matter what happens from here on out I won't feel like this forever. Thank you for sharing.
I am so disappointed when a liar's pants don't actually start on fire.
BS me 41
WH 42 his whore was my friend
Married 24 years
Finally finding R?
3 kids 3 grand kids
DDay 1 -Jan 2 2014
DDay 2 -Feb 20 2014 A went underground fo
Sad in AZ ( member #24239) posted at 5:29 AM on Thursday, April 10th, 2014
You're an amazing young woman, Jessy. I remember you first posts and how quickly you took control of your life. You have a joie de vivre that shines 
You are important and you matter. Your feelings matter. Your voice matters. Your story matters. Your life matters. Always.
Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-63
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011
woundedby2 ( member #18522) posted at 7:30 AM on Thursday, April 10th, 2014
I feel the same way you do, Jessy. A blessing in disguise.
Thanks for the update and giving the new ones some hope for a bright future.
Rock on, girl!
In 2010 I divorced the NPD assclown who cheated on me with my best friend.
Everybody, soon or late, sits down to a banquet of consequences.
~Robert Louis Stevenson
Jessy1501 (original poster member #24483) posted at 9:41 PM on Thursday, April 10th, 2014
Thanks guys! Couldn't have done it without SI.
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LeftOutintheCold ( member #42856) posted at 9:57 PM on Thursday, April 10th, 2014
Thanks for sharing your victory!! It does give me hope that I won't be feeling like this forever.
Me - 43
WH - 41
Dday - 3/6/14
Married 5yrs, together 11yrs
Status - Divorce from the ass is in progress!
You can see more of my story on my blog here: http://thatcraftylunchlady.com/?p=833
"Never give up hope and let time heal you"
4everfaithful83 ( member #41761) posted at 11:39 PM on Thursday, April 10th, 2014
Thank you for sharing!! You are one bad ass chick!!
Always know if the juice is worth the squeeze...
ME: 36
1 doggie
DDay: June 24th, 2013
DDay 2 : August 22nd,2017
Left him August 26th, 2017
inconnu ( member #24518) posted at 3:52 AM on Friday, April 11th, 2014
I love this update. You rock, sweetie.
There is no joy without gratitude. - Brené Brown
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