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This day, 5 years ago, my life changed forever. I had my first Dday. 4 years ago, exactly one year after my first Dday, I found out my XH was still cheating on me with the OW and continued their four year LTA. On that day, I told him it was over. I have not seen him again since I told him to leave MY house four years ago.

He called, he texted, he cried. I never gave back in. Four years later, he is still with the OW. I should be angry and bitter about that, but I am not. Every day I am thankful for the fact that the situation I was so suddenly thrown in to without consent allowed me to open up my eyes and see the person he really was....not the person that I tried to make him in to for so many years. The person that I wanted for him to be. I thank the OW because if it wasn't for her, I might still be stuck in a dead end marriage. I now see it as a blessing, very well disguised.

It is not an experience or situation that I wish on anybody because I went to hell and back. I was weak five years ago, but I became stronger than ever four years ago. I will never allow myself to be at that weak, dark place that I found myself in.

I thank SI and all of my friends here who supported me and were with me every step of the way. I could not have gotten to the point that I am at today without you guys. Today I am happy, alive and thriving with my new life. Thank you!

[This message edited by Jessy1501 at 10:40 PM, April 9th (Wednesday)]

(((Jessy)))

You're the bad ass chick I love to see here I'm so happy *you're* happy...you deserve so many good things life has to offer.

Never settle for less

I am so glad to read this, it helps me remember that no matter what happens from here on out I won't feel like this forever. Thank you for sharing.

You're an amazing young woman, Jessy. I remember you first posts and how quickly you took control of your life. You have a joie de vivre that shines

I feel the same way you do, Jessy. A blessing in disguise.

Thanks for the update and giving the new ones some hope for a bright future.

Rock on, girl!

Thanks guys! Couldn't have done it without SI.

Thanks for sharing your victory!! It does give me hope that I won't be feeling like this forever.

Thank you for sharing!! You are one bad ass chick!!

I love this update. You rock, sweetie.