"You can survive this. Talk to others that have"

Helen of Troy posted 4/10/2014 13:06 PM

I was awarded entire contents of house as it states in MSA. His atty tried to get me with something filed that was withdrawn because I did it (4 years ago) before hiring divorce lawyer. This was thrown out as inadmissible. I didn't know about this evidence until today. Fucktard's motion to enforce stands. This means I own all items including his "family heirlooms" as he calls them. But I may not give, sell or throw away anything without offering it to fucktard first. I take this to mean that giving it to my own children is also not allowed unless I ask fucktard first.
His bogus contract WAS allowed as admissible, but it was not allowed to be called 'blackmail' for the record. That is what I called it. His atty got real nervous when I brought this up and kept objecting. Judge asked fucktard to read some of it then asked if he wrote that he said yes. I didn't realize until later that one goal was for it to go on record that douchebag attorney was not involved in this bogus contract about signing away my parental rights and $4700 in CS arrears. That part was true, atty had nothing to do with it.

His atty kept trying to trip me up, I was firm but not rude, finally judge said enough, mr. douchebag attorney.
Fucktard wore a pink shirt.
The other part of this crap motion was that I pay his attorney fees for him to enforce this motion. It sounded like that part judge left undecided and will mail his ruling. He did ask my salary and fucktard's salary which his salary btw went up by twenty grand per year and let's just say that his current salary is mine if you transpose the first two numbers on the left. I did the math and was shocked he is now making that much. It says in MSA the one breaking contract has to pay the other's fees to enforce. I tried to convey that I still had said item and asked fucktard twice if he would drop the suit. But he refused and insisted on litigation and his bogus contract. Douchebag attorney started asking at the end for SOME atty fees be paid by me if all couldn't be. Any guesses on how judge will rule on that? Will he really make me pay when there is such a discrepancy in income? Any thoughts on this?
Oh and owife got thrown out of the room!
She was also thrown out of hospital one time.
My xSO accompanied me too and when she was asked to leave he said SOs making facial gestures, so I am asking both SOs to leave the room now. XSO wasn't making any, he's reserved and not like that so I know it was HER.
It was also hard to tell if the judge believed me or believed him. they have to be that way to be unbiased? It was a magistrate. I was told to be quiet a few times but fucktard's attorney was allowed to speak out of turn. I tried very hard to be respectful, truthful but I am not a lawyer, not educated in procedure, etc. I felt kind of small, even doing my best.
I just wanted to say to those who responded, a huge thank you for supporting me. There are few places in everyday life that I can tell this to and keeping it inside is hard. Some of it is still shameful, like owife and just having been married to him is embarrassing. So thank you so much.

Situation #2 will be tonight.
Let's hope it goes well.

[This message edited by Helen of Troy at 1:17 PM, April 10th (Thursday)]

WeepingBuddhist posted 4/10/2014 13:26 PM

oh, Helen!!! Good for you!

Glad you made it through today. Hope you have time for some relaxation and deep breaths before the next round of assholism.

caregiver9000 posted 4/10/2014 13:35 PM

(((((big hugs)))))

I am glad this is OVER! I can imagine how drained you must be. I totally get being embarrassed at having been married to "that." But there is nothing shameful. Maybe we can both get to the drop the shame place someday.

I hope he trips on a sidewalk crack.

I wish I believed this would set him on his heels a bit. Unfortunately, I think he will rage, so be careful. Of course, maybe he is stupid enough to think he "won?" Continued MOJO for judge to settle him with all of his own fees!!

and MOJO for the rest of the day too!

Elaine2012 posted 4/10/2014 15:40 PM

Fucktard wore a pink shirt.

This thrown in among your update made me laugh.

((((Helen of Troy)))) Progress!! Thinking about you and sending mojo you way.

ruby44 posted 4/10/2014 19:36 PM

I read both of your updates and believe that your day could not have gone any better, well it could have gone better on a beach with an umbrella in a cocktail with a pool boy fanning you, but with all that you had on your plate, it went well. Sounds like you rocked the courtroom and the visit, I am so happy for you. I hope the judge's opinion goes your way. Glad that the threatening email was put into evidence. Take a deep breathe and know that you did great.