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User Topic: Has anyone gotten the waiting period waived?
nekorb
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Default  Posted: 7:28 PM, April 10th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I really don't want to have to wait another 30-90 days to have everything finalized. We have basically been separated in house for months.

Has anyone managed to get this waived successfully? Do I just have to suck it up and wait?


Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 aka CAT- colossal asshat; Married 22 years
D-day: July 17, 2013, with TT to follow
D filed July 16, 2014, 363 days later than I should have
Psalms 27:14
Wait for The Lord; be strong and take heart. Wait for the Lord.

Posts: 1838 | Registered: Aug 2013
devistatedmom
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Default  Posted: 7:44 PM, April 10th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You probably have to suck it up and wait. The only reasons I know of anywhere for getting rid of the waiting period are abuse oriented.

However, that doesn't mean you have to stay in hell. Do NOTHING for him. No laundry, no cooking, no cleaning, no nothing. Start going out one night a week, even if it's to walmart. Just tell him you are going out on Wednesdays, and he will have to make sure the kids are fed and done their homework. He doesn't need to know where, it's none of his business. Even if you go for a walk, just enjoy it. Get some time for yourself.


BS(me) 46, Two wonderful teens.
He is no longer my best friend. Repeat until it sticks.

WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.


Posts: 5620 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: Canada
Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 8:41 PM, April 10th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's State specific. Where I got divorced, there was a six month waiting period to file, plus a 30 day waiting period after the judge signed it for it to become final, which is designed for either party to appeal the decision more easily.

We waived our right to the appeal period, a form that we filed with the complaint and response, and it was final/effective immediately.

I have known people who have been willing to perjure themselves in court and lied about their date of separation to get around the waiting to file. Of course, both spouses and potentially a witness need to all agree to lie in court for that to happen.


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

Posts: 13925 | Registered: Jul 2011
nekorb
♀ 40306
Member # 40306
Default  Posted: 11:40 AM, April 11th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh bummer....


Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 aka CAT- colossal asshat; Married 22 years
D-day: July 17, 2013, with TT to follow
D filed July 16, 2014, 363 days later than I should have
Psalms 27:14
Wait for The Lord; be strong and take heart. Wait for the Lord.

Posts: 1838 | Registered: Aug 2013
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