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User Topic: t/j on aging
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Default  Posted: 9:57 PM, April 10th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So, I have a little over a month before I turn 60. I'm not sure how that happened. My father was 60, not me. Anyway, since it's an inevitable thing, I've decided to "celebrate" for an extended period, say from the 5th, to a day after my actual birthday on the 19th. My good friends are taking me to lunch on the 16th, so that's covered. My family will have a party for me close to the actual day.

I'm just about at my fighting weight, have a pound or two to go, I'm happy about that. I've decided that I'll never be as thin as I was at 20, that menopot is probably here to stay. It's not too bad.

I have a Groupon for a massage and a facial, I'll have my hair cut and highlighted, nails done, car washed, etc. I'm not a shopper, don't really need clothes, being retired, don't NEED things.

So any other ideas? What do you all do to pamper yourselves? I don't drink much, it gives me a headache. but I'd love to hear about your indulgent pleasures and maybe add them to my list.

[This message edited by scaredyKat at 9:58 PM, April 10th (Thursday)]

Damn autocorrect is responsible for the silly errors, sorry!

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Default  Posted: 10:03 PM, April 10th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's awesome!

I love to get pedicures! :)

“People who cheat feel that life is for the taking, and that everyone deserves happiness no matter what the cost. I must remember these tricks if I ever have my soul surgically removed."
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Default  Posted: 7:24 AM, April 11th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

that menopot is probably here to stay. It's not too bad.

I will throw this out there, but will probably be a mixed bag at results....but.....They have those detox wraps that I have seen results from on other people, and it's stuck so far. Its nothing dramatic, a few inches, but it sounds like you want a day at the spa anyway, you could do one of those.....what do you have to lose right?

-They have something here in town call Wine and Canvas, and you paint a picture through the night step by step. I have yet to do it, but it looks really fun.

-If you are into a little more - you could always get yourself a nice Right hand ring. That's what my mom did. She got one in her favorite stone and loves it.

- If you are into new things, adventure, ect.....something that i heard about is to take a map of an area (Ie the united states, your state, your surrounding area, ect) and blow it up a bit. Then, take X number of darts (depending on how far you want to go, and for how long, will determine that) and just throw the darts onto the map. So now you know the WHERE, you have to commit to those places, and find something fun/interesting/ect....and poof, adventure.

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Default  Posted: 7:39 AM, April 11th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I would add in a weekend of doing/going where you like and just having a blast, so if you golf a golfing weekend, if you fish, a fishing weekend etc.

Perhaps a cooking class on a particular type of food you love but don't cook, to learn a new skill, I say this because I would love to take and learn how to make sushi.

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Default  Posted: 10:33 AM, April 11th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congratulations on making it this far. I reckoned 60 was a number to be celebrated all year long.

I opted for staycation last year so I could buy a beautiful handmade guitar to add to my collection in honour of that milestone.

After spending a whole lot of dough on a dental implant to keep my jawbone healthy, I reckoned I was worth a little bling.

So go for it: a celebration of some kind each month. You are so worth it.

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Default  Posted: 6:38 PM, April 11th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

really, a splurge... go on a fabulous vacation.

for me it might be a trip to Ireland, or a camping adventure in Alaska... (are there even camping adventures in ALaska... I just made that up! )

But if I had some money and wanted to pamper myself, a flippin' fabulous vacation would be it!

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Default  Posted: 6:47 PM, April 11th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

At age almost 66, I did my first 5k last weekend and placed 4th in my age group. I feel better and look better than I have in years. Age is just a number, baby!

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Default  Posted: 9:43 AM, April 13th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My favorite "me" thing to do is go to one of our local hot mineral springs and soak in a private tub for an hour.

When my 60th rolls around in a few years I plan to celebrate it (a few weeks early) by experiencing the total solar eclipse on August 21, 2017. It cuts a path across the continental U.S.

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Default  Posted: 11:34 AM, April 13th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

After the year I've had so far, making it to 60 in August will be my biggest gift

I always treat myself well on my birthday. I've never wanted to be dependent on someone else making me happy. It's my day my way

A massage is pretty usual, as is a nice present, usually yarn or some other crafting supplies--something splurgy Then a really nice dinner.

I had hoped to celebrate my 60th hiking on a volcano in Hawaii but it's not looking good for that. Maybe I'll head to a closer coast and go to Acadia NP in Maine instead. We'll see.

Do whatever you want and ENJOY it

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Default  Posted: 8:15 PM, April 13th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage, nails, and toes, face, massage. Someone just offered me a free, completely built dollhouse! I built one several years ago, this will be my second. All I need to do to this is decorate it. So, a shopping spree to a miniatures shop.
@undefinabl...I saw something like that nearby! A wine and paint by number thing. Trouble is, I'm such a lightweight, one glass of wine, I'm asleep. But I thing a trip to my favorite winery should be on my list, along with a DD.

Vacations are on hold right now. But I do have a bucket list. But that guitar was gorgeous! I simply don't play well enough to justify.

OK, just thought of something else. A whale watch. Well, really, in this area, a dolphin watch. Definitely.

Thanks all! Let the celebration begin!

Damn autocorrect is responsible for the silly errors, sorry!

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Default  Posted: 4:18 PM, April 14th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If you don't need to own them, you can go to the lending "bookstore" (the library) and go crazy "buying" more books than you can read. The gift is giving yourself the time to read one - as long as you want.

Go to a stationer (I'm crazy about paper). Or a card shop. Don't forget to buy yourself a birthday card!

And the museum - see what shows are in town. Ours has a film series, too, where you can see funny / weird / artsy / foreign films for cheap.

And art shows. If your local college / univ. offers art classes they almost always have a show at the end of the semester. Sometimes they have a sale associated with it. Support new artists, find something you adore, or start Christmas gift buying?

And what about Fill-a-Seat? You can buy a cheap subscription and see what comes up. I've seen some nice small-theater plays that I never would have ponied up the cash for.

A walk in a local dog park to soak up free love from the mutts?

Go to the ethnic food store and buy one weird food and cook it!

Go to a thrift store and just cruise the aisles to see what treasure you didn't know you needed. I got a uranium glass cream pitcher last year for 39c!

Talk to a friend you owe a call to - a good long set-aside-the-time phone call where all you do is catch up and b*tch.

Ride the bus around town and people watch. Pretend that the man in the gabardine suit is a spy. :-) Sketch them in a Dollar Store sketch book even if you're not an artist. Or write a story about them if you're too self-conscious to draw them.

Eat a popsicle at the fountain in front of city hall (or wherever your town has one).

Oh my.

I could go on and on and on....

I sorry.

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Default  Posted: 8:28 AM, April 15th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I love to take a book and go to a really great restaurant by myself. Eat yummy food, drink special wine, and read my book in luxury. I do this at least once a month. It's my sanity time.

Age: 64..ummmmmmm,, hell born in 1947. You figure it out!

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