Topic: My H thanked me
Member # 26370
| Posted: 3:18 PM, April 11th (Friday), 2014|
for taking care of everything (bills, cleaning, laundry, dry cleaning, shopping, etc. Nothing earth shattering , but necessary evils of every day living). He said he has never thanked me and wanted to know he did appreciate everything I did.
this was a first and meant so much to me. It started to say it was no big deal, but I stopped and said you are welcome.
it is nice to be appreciated.
BS- Me -young at heart
FWH- AARP Eligible
M - Over a quarter of a century
DDay - 9-14-09
R - going full steam ahead
Posts: 345 | Registered: Nov 2009 | From: West Coast
Member # 16024
| Posted: 3:19 PM, April 11th (Friday), 2014|
That's beautiful. It's good to feel affirmed and acknowledged. I'm glad your H let you know that you are appreciated.
“Empathy has no script. There is no right way or wrong way to do it. It’s simply listening, holding space, withholding judgment, emotionally connecting, and communicating that incredibly healing message of “you’re not alone.” ~ Brene Brown
Posts: 54905 | Registered: Sep 2007
Member # 38044
| Posted: 3:31 PM, April 11th (Friday), 2014|
Wonderful post. So nice to have some gratitude offered to you.
It is the small things that add up to the big things.....so glad you didn't discount this small act of geniune gratitude.
I am learning the real value of saying "Thank You" and "I forgive you"....rather than the "no big deal" and "it was nothing" route.
Congratulations! This is a solid, positive post.
God is with us all.
[This message edited by blakesteele at 3:32 PM, April 11th (Friday)]
ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not yet incurred.
Posts: 5788 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Central Missouri
Member # 37575
| Posted: 3:44 PM, April 11th (Friday), 2014|
He is being observant and thinking of YOU! That's what I am talking about!!! Cheating is so selfish and it's very refreshing when they not only think about you and what you are doing, but TELL you!
Me: BW Him: FWH in our 50's
DDay June 1st 2012
cheated with prostitutes overseas
Posts: 700 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Out West
Member # 40166
| Posted: 4:20 PM, April 11th (Friday), 2014|
That's so great
I too am learning to accept the gratitude and not discount the apologies. Any time he says he's sorry for something (not A related) I want to say "it's fine" but I realize it's not necessarily fine, and that I do need to hear him say that he's sorry.
It's a process!
M: 15 years
4 lovely daughters
Working to rebuild.
Posts: 1127 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Canada
Member # 35812
| Posted: 1:30 PM, April 13th (Sunday), 2014|
Very nice indeed!
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
Posts: 9065 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
Member # 31240
| Posted: 2:46 PM, April 13th (Sunday), 2014|
fBH (me) - 70+, fWW, Married 45+, together 45+, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
I share my own experience because it's all I know.
Posts: 15545 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Illinois
Member # 38384
| Posted: 3:01 PM, April 13th (Sunday), 2014|
Good stuff lonely2009.
And not only did he thank you but he said, "I have never thanked you..." Acknowledging past poor behaviour. I just see that as him shining a bright light on himself.
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear
Posts: 3437 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Canada, eh
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