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User Topic: My H thanked me
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Default  Posted: 3:18 PM, April 11th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

for taking care of everything (bills, cleaning, laundry, dry cleaning, shopping, etc. Nothing earth shattering , but necessary evils of every day living). He said he has never thanked me and wanted to know he did appreciate everything I did.

this was a first and meant so much to me. It started to say it was no big deal, but I stopped and said you are welcome.

it is nice to be appreciated.

BS- Me -young at heart
FWH- AARP Eligible
M - Over a quarter of a century
DDay - 9-14-09
R - going full steam ahead

Posts: 350 | Registered: Nov 2009 | From: West Coast
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Default  Posted: 3:19 PM, April 11th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's beautiful. It's good to feel affirmed and acknowledged. I'm glad your H let you know that you are appreciated.

DS, you are forever in my heart. Thank you for sharing your beautiful spirit with me. I will always try to live by the example you have set. I love you and miss you every day and am sorry you had to go so soon, it just doesn't seem fair.

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Default  Posted: 3:31 PM, April 11th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wonderful post. So nice to have some gratitude offered to you.

It is the small things that add up to the big glad you didn't discount this small act of geniune gratitude.

I am learning the real value of saying "Thank You" and "I forgive you"....rather than the "no big deal" and "it was nothing" route.

Congratulations! This is a solid, positive post.

God is with us all.

[This message edited by blakesteele at 3:32 PM, April 11th (Friday)]

ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not yet incurred.

Posts: 5825 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Central Missouri
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Default  Posted: 3:44 PM, April 11th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He is being observant and thinking of YOU! That's what I am talking about!!! Cheating is so selfish and it's very refreshing when they not only think about you and what you are doing, but TELL you!

Me: BW Him: FWH in our 50's
DDay June 1st 2012
cheated with prostitutes overseas

Posts: 700 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Out West
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Default  Posted: 4:20 PM, April 11th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's so great .

I too am learning to accept the gratitude and not discount the apologies. Any time he says he's sorry for something (not A related) I want to say "it's fine" but I realize it's not necessarily fine, and that I do need to hear him say that he's sorry.

It's a process!

Me: BS
Him: FWS
M: 15 years
4 lovely daughters
Working to rebuild.

Posts: 1127 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Canada
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Default  Posted: 1:30 PM, April 13th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Very nice indeed!

Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012

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Default  Posted: 2:46 PM, April 13th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

fBH (me) - 66 on d-day, Married 43, together 45 on d-day, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
Most of us know only our own experience. That's not enough data to support a general rule that D, or R, is right in every sitch.

Posts: 17049 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Illinois
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Default  Posted: 3:01 PM, April 13th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good stuff lonely2009.

And not only did he thank you but he said, "I have never thanked you..." Acknowledging past poor behaviour. I just see that as him shining a bright light on himself.

Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear

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