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User Topic: keep attracting the weirdos in old
dignityintact
♀ 32558
Member # 32558
Happy  Posted: 4:37 PM, April 11th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So another weird guy from the wonderful world of online dating….

He messaged me through the site (Match), he thought I was "absolutely beautiful" (slight red flag, but flattering nonetheless)…so we messaged over a couple of days on the site, then we swapped numbers. Yesterday.
I was at work yesterday, and it's school holidays here, so I'm juggling my kids too….however we exchanged a few pleasant texts throughout the day - no phone call…..then….this morning, less than 24 hours after giving him my number he texts me - "sorry, you are obviously not that excited in pursuing a relationship, so I'm going to move on"……wtf!!! Firstly, to use the term "relationship" when we haven't even met….honestly, I was shocked, but now quite relieved!
My response was, "wow, I was really not expecting this - what were you expecting from me? We only swapped numbers yesterday and I was at work all day. I'm very cautious with online dating." No response….probably just as well….hopefully he'll think twice before acting all bunny boiler on the next "victim"

Anyone got any ideas what I may have done to get this response? I'm truly baffled….yes, at the beginning I am very cautious with online guys - I've met so many odd characters/flakes/players….to me it's never real until you meet anyway, I'm not keen on all the texting and messaging prior to a meet, it just doesn't work for me, I get too attached, and then the meet is a huge let down.

Sadly, it is clarifying the reality that OLD is not the way forward for me, and I am finally embracing being single now…..


"Sometimes on the way to the dream, you get a lost and find a better one"

Divorcing - at last!


Posts: 94 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: Uk
norabird
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Member # 42092
Default  Posted: 5:17 PM, April 11th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This definitely has nothing to do with what you did/didn't text, and all to do with his crazy expectations!

Next.


Sit. Feast on your life.

Posts: 4235 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: NYC
PhoenixRisen
35912
Member # 35912
Default  Posted: 5:24 PM, April 11th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Anyone got any ideas what I may have done to get this response?

Yep,
nothing...
absolutely nothing...
That response was about the giver not the recipient.

Bullet dodged!


Posts: 509 | Registered: Jun 2012
Nature_Girl
♀ 32554
Member # 32554
Default  Posted: 6:41 PM, April 11th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He probably doesn't brush his teeth. Be glad you can next him before you smell him in person.


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU

Posts: 10137 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
Tripletrouble
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Member # 39169
Default  Posted: 7:35 PM, April 11th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh he would have been so clingy. Consider yourself lucky you never met him.


40 somethings - me BW after 20 years
D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013

Be happy with what you have while you work for what you want - Hellen Keller


Posts: 640 | Registered: May 2013
better4me
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Member # 30341
Default  Posted: 12:41 PM, April 12th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Anyone got any ideas what I may have done to get this response?

Gotta agree, it wasn't you. Consider yourself lucky to have found out so early in the process. If it happens again, don't bother with such a nice response, it only leaves you open for additional bullying. Next time just say "ok" and leave it at that.


DDay 11/17/2010 BW:53
Divorced

Posts: 3266 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Iowa
BAB61
♀ 41181
Member # 41181
Default  Posted: 11:10 PM, April 12th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He probably doesn't brush his teeth. Be glad you can next him before you smell him in person.
Nature Girl ... I cracked up!!!

Yup .. next!!! You most certainly dodged the crazy train!

I am still 2 months from the dissolution of the marriage, so haven't felt comfortable doing the OLD route, and now ... I'm skeered!!


Boss A** B*tch
BS/52 Me, STBXpos/56, dd's 16&14
1st D-day 10/19/2013 EA/PA
2nd D-day 12/7/2013 LTA/Rendezvous
S 12/7/2013 No-fault state, 6 mo S, counting down the days.

Posts: 1271 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: DE
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