In October 2010, I discovered some emails from my DH to a women from a craigslist casual sex ad and when he was confronted he admitted to having an affair at work with a women and then he left me that night (and we became separated for about 6 months). We have a son who was 16 months old then. After we got back together he admitted to meeting 3 times with prostitutes (one of those times while he was with me) and various encounters at a massage parlour.
Things have been ok since we got back together although I cant say I totally trust him. He has still lied about things such as smoking pot (which he has an addiction to, as well as a sex addiction). I dont think he has cheated again. We did some IC and well as marriage counselling but he still has obvious intimacy issues. He rarely wants to have sex and we do maybe once every few months.
We cant afford anymore counselling but I dont know what to do anymore?
I have an urgent question though, my DH's friend's (more of a friend of a friend) stag is tmrw night and they are going to stay in a hotel on a mountain and go golfing the next day. He wants to go but Im really not comfortable with it. Apparently there will be no girls/strippers (but would he tell me if there was?!!) He thinks Im being unreasonable. Am I?
Thanks for any help- Its so hard to know what to do in these situations. I dont want to "tell him what to do" but I also dont think its even fair hes wanting to go when it makes me so uncomfortable.
[This message edited by srjb at 5:50 PM, April 11th (Friday)]