I understand revisiting boundaries. I took a look at my boundaries when we were revising WH's boundaries. Mine have not changed because they have always been good, but WH now has a say in them.
Specifically, I'm a hugger. When I see people I know and haven't seen in a long time, I hug them. If someone looks like they need a hug, I hug them. I'm the same whether WH is there or not, but I conduct myself as though WH were always by my side. It doesn't matter if they are male or female although I am very respectful of marriages and usually only hug the wives. I would never hug anyone who I had a past with or who put out the vibe.
WH now has veto power over who I hug. If he is uncomfortable about it for any reason, we have a prearranged signal that he will hold my hand. Usually, we talk about it if he sees something he doesn't like and I agree not to ever hug them again.
With WH, his boundaries are that he is not to have any non-work conversations with any woman outside of my presence. He is to tell me about any conversations he has with a woman even if it is work related. He is not to touch another woman in any way ever even if she is a hugger too and he is expected to stay at least an arm's length away from any woman.
I know his boundaries are strict, but I am at the end of my rope. If I ever see or hear of any of these boundaries being crossed, I am fully fed up and fully prepared to walk. If someone else crosses these boundaries, I expect him to respond with the same disrespect that they are showing me after everything I have been through.
My boundary tightening isn't a punishment for me. It is me making an effort to be more sensitive to my WH's feelings just as I expect WH to be more sensitive to mine.