That or me getting ill.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
Not sure I necessarily believe in karma, but cancer in the middle of R is a tough, tough hand to be dealt. You are both in my prayers.
edited for typos (I always have to!)
By the grace of god we go forth!
Being the well BS of a sick WS/FWS really is tough! There are several members of SI who are living this nightmare including myself. Take care of yourself! Caregivers need to be cared for too and rarely take time out to do it. A sick Wayward compounds the pain and bitterness of infidelity. It can make both R and D more difficult. This person cut you off at the knees and now you are caring for them in their hour of need. You are left a whole lot of "worse" and very little "better". Add the ED stuff in and you have a big pile of crap. I don't know about you, but it is a struggle for me to deal with it all. Some days are good and some days are very bad.
Good luck with all you have to deal with now. Keep posting because there are so many wise people here. They will support you through the storm. I couldn't make it without SI.
I can only imagine how hard this would be. I am 7 years out and fully invested in R, and I can only imagine.
Continue to work on R (as long as that is what you want), and take time for yourself, too.
Madhatters. More Ddays than birthdays, at this point.