You moved out (at my request) just over 4 weeks ago. While I'm still very hurt, angry, and sad about the demise of our 15 year marriage, I've learned some things.
I've realized that I am better than you. I out grew you several years ago. I suspect that you knew this long ago. This is why you have stifled me for years and ultimately started having an A with a married baker. You are a loser. You have always been a loser. I lacked the self-esteem to know that when we married.
The last few weeks have only been a reveal of who you really are. You are a lying, cheating, deceptive, self-absorbed loser who is not worth my time. I know that the OW will either kick you to the curb or that R will also implode. Contrary to your belief, your sh$# does not smell like roses and you are responsible for a lot of the crap that has happened in your life.
While your life is going to suck, I am going to move on, heal, and find someone new. Someone who wants to be my partner and is passionate towards me. I'm not yet ready (since we are still married), I also look forward to finding a new man who does not have constant "performance issues."