I'm sure some people have dealt with this before, but I will be meeting with a lawyer this week to get dissolution stuff in writing and would love some input.
I'm struggling with what to put in re:custody agreements (SAWH wants to attempt to reconcile in the future, has only said I can drop the kids off whenever the other ones have a dr appt, etc, like we do now and I presume would want to do a Saturday or Sunday outing with them. He does not currently do bath time/bedtime/etc and never has, and does not like to have all three kids, usually).
Because of the whole other life thing that is the cause of our divorce (Craigslist stuff/MFM/threesomes), I feel apprehensive about the type of people that could come into contact with the kids, and would prefer not to do standard visitation (overnights). Would it be fair to do like tues/thurs for 3 hours and saturday1-5 (or whatever)? I know he can always have more if everything's going well. Just not sure what I want to put down for a regular thing set in stone. I think he will agree if it's reasonable.
I don't know what to do about vacation, either, I'm sure he will want to do camping with the two bigger kids this summer.
Thoughts? I have never been concerned about sexual abuse before, but he was very good at hiding his addiction and just recently told me that he was sexually abused as a child. I feel badly for him but terrified that my children will be alone with him.