AP was my SIL. We haven't had a family event yet where BW and AP (or me and BIL) were in the same place.
Saturday is a bridal shower for a cousin in the family. A month ago, BIL contacted BW to say that AP wanted to go. BW said that she'd be OK with being in the same room as AP.
We haven't talked about the A much lately. I bring it up every couple of days, ask if she needs to talk or needs anything from me. BW keeps saying that she's good. She might be good. She might be building up. Either way, it will be traumatic for BW on Saturday.
Any advice? Any thoughts on what I can do to ease a little bit of the burden off of BW? We have a MC session on Thursday, so I know that we'll talk about it there at the very least.
In a way, we are both looking forward to this. It will be really hard, but it is a step forward. WRT her family, BW has been in the "eating the whole elephant in one bite" sort of thinking. She is worried that it will always be awful. We have been discussing the need to take it a little at a time. Just because one time is awful, if we continue to work, the next one might not be so bad.
Sorry for rambling. I just feel like this is a big milestone in our R.