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User Topic: short Brene Brown animated video
Morhurt
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Default  Posted: 12:19 PM, April 14th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I watched this with my H and we both loved it. It's short and left us wanting more. The difference between sympathy and empathy, it feels to me like the difference between regret and remorse.
(video has stupid and triggery title, please ignore)

https://www.upworthy.com/my-wife-didnt-get-why-i-was-so-into-this-woman-but-after-about-40-seconds-we-were-both-obsessed?c=ufb2


Me: BS
Him: FWS
M: 15 years
4 lovely daughters
Working to rebuild.

Posts: 961 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Canada
SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 12:43 PM, April 14th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What makes something better is connection.
Wow! I find that statement by Dr. Brene Brown to be very powerful for the truth that it holds.

Connection makes something better. Definitely true for our reconciliation. We had lost our connection. We have it back now and that has made it better for me.

Also, connecting with people here at SI definitely absolutely made it better for me. That is why SI is so powerful. Connecting us all together really does make it better.

Her explanation in knowing the difference between sympathy and empathy is, as usual, spot on. I really like what Dr. Brown has to say.


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


Posts: 10101 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
IWantDoOver
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Default  Posted: 6:36 PM, April 14th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Best thing I've seen all day.

Brene Brown "gets it"! I may have to start following her column in O mag.


Peace

Posts: 221 | Registered: Jun 2013
HeartFullOfHoles
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Default  Posted: 7:17 PM, April 14th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I showed this to our MC months ago. Said it felt like my WW was offering me a sandwich all the time. My WW seems to be trying to figure this out, but it sure isn't coming easily to her.

I would have expected more empathy (and remorse) from my WW given her first husband had a PA and married the OW, but I guess understanding the pain and empathizing are two different things.


BH - Divorcing
D-Day 4/28-29/2012
Two daughters in HS

Posts: 188 | Registered: Mar 2014
Morhurt
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Default  Posted: 10:25 AM, April 15th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've heard snippets of Brene Brown's TED talks but H and I are now going to watch them for sure. :)


Me: BS
Him: FWS
M: 15 years
4 lovely daughters
Working to rebuild.

Posts: 961 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Canada
brokensmile322
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Default  Posted: 1:45 PM, April 15th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

THis is awesome. Thanks for sharing.

I sent it to my fWH. He said he loved it and apologized for having offered me sandwiches over and over again. He said he feels bad for my being in a hole and feeling alone. He said the visual really helped his very black and white mind.


Me BS 42 Him WS 44
OW Coworker DDay April 7, 2012
EA on a slippery slope...

When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves. ~Viktor Frankl

"When you are happy, you can forgive a great deal."


Posts: 1613 | Registered: Jun 2012
RidingHealingRd
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Default  Posted: 8:07 PM, April 15th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you.

I just shared with my WH who, during his affair, lacked empathy.


ME: 54 BS
HIM: 61 WH
Married: 28 years
D'Day: 10/29/10
in R 4 years and it's working but he is putting 200% into it (as he should) to make it right again.

The truth hurts, but I have never seen it cause the pain that lies do.


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