Weíve been married 8 years with two kids between us and one step son (that I accepted since birth). In the beginning of my decision to D, he had been very agreeable in our discussions: joint custody, not telling the kids until we could do so calmly. Well, he has reversed things and now he says he spoke to a lawyer and will fight me for full custody, and he also told our kids after a heated discussion. He keeps arguing in front of the kids, despite that I chose not to participate in it. Heís very hostile in his arguing and says things in front of the children he should not. We rent our home, and I need to move because he is irrational. For example, he has stolen my things and have damaged them. All day long he is sending irate texts.
I really need help with a plan. I canít afford to retain a lawyer upfront and was hoping to do the initial filing through a paralegal or legal service to at least get the ball rolling, and retain a lawyer if he really does fight me. I donít know how to split our finances and our bills, as they are very month to month out of one shared checking account. And, I donít know if I can find a place and just move my kids, without suffering from backlash from taking them from their ďhomeĒ. He told me he will not allow me to remove them from their home.
[This message edited by differentNow at 11:05 AM, April 15th (Tuesday)]