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GotMyLifeBck2013 posted 4/15/2014 12:33 PM

We've all experienced the utter stupidity of our wayward spouses or ex spouses...sometimes they can say such mind numbing dumb things you have to laugh. Other times you just feel the urge to slap them in the head. Seriously, theres nothing funny about the comment but you just want to shake them over how ludicrous it is...my favorite, "ill never do that again"...first, every drunk and drug user has said that a million times, its the weakest attempt at self control in the world, and never is an unattainable height...its also self absolving, if the commitment is back for the wayward they can feel whole again, theyve recommitted and everyone can see theyre serious now. Finally, its such an insult...you DID cheat. It doesnt make it okay to simply wash the mistake away by saying you wont do it again. Big deal. Focus on why you chose to be such an empty soul and harm others. So whats your head slapper?

justinpaintoday posted 4/15/2014 12:49 PM

"It was Just Sex"

Thanks for belittling our many years of M with just sex

kbl1301 posted 4/15/2014 12:56 PM

I posted this somewhere else, but its kind of original so to speak.

After finding a topless pic of a mutual friend in his phone, he tells me

"its just boobs, everybody has boobs"

He really seen no problem with him having this pic. I on the other hand did.

HFSSC posted 4/15/2014 13:36 PM

I have two that compete in my memory for the "stupid prize".

First one: after dday # GodOnlyKnows, after a ONS, an online A, an EA, another A, false R and final blow up, he came to the house one morning and said, "Please, don't give up on us. Please just give me one chance to make it right."

Yes, I actually did R with him after that, following his successful surgery to remove his head from his ass.

Then, we were discussing going somewhere and maybe not taking our boys. He was wanting to bring the younger one and said, "You don't know what it's like to be apart from your son and miss him so much."

I said, "No, but I know what it's like to hold him every night while he cries until he throws up because he misses his dad so much and wants to know why Daddy can't come home. Trade ya!"

GotMyLifeBck2013 posted 4/15/2014 13:39 PM

Justin...right! That one baffled me as well...

GotMyLifeBck2013 posted 4/15/2014 13:55 PM

Another one that blew me away was her telling me she was going through a lot of pain too..."you dont know how hard it is to break up with someone."

One of the all time great deal breakers for me. Couldnt talk for a week after that one. Really? Unfreakin believable.

PositiveAttitude posted 4/15/2014 14:00 PM

The two phrases that WH uttered in this entire situation that still have me shaking his head were:

"I don't understand why you and OW continue to try to be mean to and hurt each other."

I was just living MY life and offering MY WH the chance to R - OW was the emotionally insecure couldn't actually get my WH to leave me woman who wouldn't leave well enough alone. Granted since her social media pages were at the time the only place I was getting even the slightest semblance of the truth - she was certainly trying to hurt me. Except more times than not I was able to foil their plans because of her premature postings. :-)

or my ALL time Favorite:

"Maybe we should just D now while we can still be friends - you know before we hate each other."

I think my response was "You are talking about abandoning me, our children, our home and our life for a woman who can't outshine my faintest candle with a million lumen spotlight and you think I won't HATE you?"

Or my other favorite - "Even if I move across the country and see them when I can - I'll always be their Daddy." Got that one straight from OW's mouth apparently.

Yes, my WH was a very foggy man!

Lovedyoumore posted 4/15/2014 14:14 PM

There is pretty good evidence that OW came into our house while I was out of town and she knew my H was at work. When I told my H that it probably happened and why I believed it happened, he was shaken and said...."I do not think she would do that". Yep, she has the morals to screw a married man, talk about their future together while the wife is clueless, but he cannot believe she would come into our house to snoop. She would not stoop to that. Whatever.

Lovedyoumore posted 4/15/2014 14:16 PM

Oh, and the night I think she came into our house, she accessed his FB page and put herself into his family list. But, she would never enter our house to snoop.

imagoodwitch posted 4/15/2014 14:31 PM

On the morning of DDay, I told WS to choose, either me or OW and he said, I shit you not, "well isn't it obvious who I choose?"

Um, no it isn't obvious, you see, I just read your emails back and forth and I am a little perplexed to say the least

Also, when it was disclosed that it was a full on PA, I exclaimed "OMG! What if she's pregnant?!?!?!" WS said "she's on the pill, she can't get pregnant" to which I replied "what if she is lying about being on the pill in order to trap you with a OC?" WS's reply......... "she would never lie to me!".

Lovedyoumore posted 4/15/2014 15:14 PM

Ima.....I got that, too. What if she is pregnant? They NEVER used std protection. She got the pill after they started the PA. I asked how do you know she took them? "I told her I did not want her to get pregnant." So? How do you know she took them? "She would not do that. She knew what I wanted." Right, buster. She was so moral and all.

coldshot posted 4/15/2014 15:31 PM

"I didn't lie to him...he knew I was married."
Hmmm...
I'm glad your betrayal of our family was based on honesty towards your loser AP.
When given the ultimatum of immediate NC:
"I wish I could have two months to get it out of my system."
When discussing my insistence for counseling for DD6:
"I think pottery classes are more important than counseling right now."
Yeah.

SoVerySadNow posted 4/15/2014 15:50 PM

When I demanded to know the truth, mine said he felt "uncomfortable" discussing it. I explained that if I could deal with my discomfort in hearing the truth, that he just had to suck it up and talk.
He also said I wasn't ever supposed to know about it, and that he figured that what I didn't know wouldn't hurt me.

Mindfully posted 4/15/2014 16:47 PM

My head slapper didn't come from the SO (well, hasn't yet) but from the OW. When I found the email confirming his affair, my SO was at the OW's house. I raced over to her house in a rage and confronted him on her doorstep, at which point she very calmly looked at me and said: "Why don't you come in and have a drink." REALLY?

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