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lackofcolor posted 4/15/2014 12:59 PM

Prefacing this by saying -- I KNOW I SHOULD NOT CARE.

Just discovered that STBXH is Facebook friends again with OW1.

After she verbally attacked me he told me he hated her. That she was psycho. That she couldn't be trusted. She blocked me on FB, so I had no idea until I was reading through comments on one of his posts and he had said her name in a reply (she has a very unusual name so I know it was her.) He and I are FB friends because we're on good terms, and because he moved out of state and I still wanted to be able to share pictures/stories about DD5 with him.

So really, STBXH? Now that you're bored and lonely in another state you go crawling back to that nasty hosebeast?

I know, I know. I should not care, I should not care, I should not care. I wouldn't take his sorry ass back if he were the last man alive. No idea why I care at all.

I'll be blocking him from seeing anything that doesn't immediately pertain to him because lord knows I don't want that bitch knowing anything about my life...and if I know him, he's probably shit talking me to her all day long, like he did when he was cheating on me with her.

It just feels like a slap in the face.

Ostrich80 posted 4/15/2014 13:09 PM

Ugghh. You already know what you need to do, smart move blocking the bitch from any part of your life. Still stings and prob will for awhile when things like this happen. Hope your life gets so amazingly busy with all the good stuff that it will push her out of your mind.

lackofcolor posted 4/15/2014 13:56 PM

That's the truth. Honestly my life IS busy with good stuff. DD5 and I moved in January and I'm adjusting to life as a single mom with an ex-H who lives 1000 miles away and only visits 2-3 days a month, a new job that I love, and being back home with family. Life is GOOD, especially now that the stress of looking over my shoulder constantly is gone.

(Backstory: STBX and I split in September of last year, then in November he informed me that he was going to be taking a job in another state, so DD and I moved back to my home state to be near family.)

It does still sting, though. The flip side is that he makes more money (though he does gladly pay CS, he still makes twice what I do), and he gets to come and go as he pleases, come home and relax if he feels like relaxing, etc etc while I'm working, trying hard to make ends meet, and taking care of his child. Meanwhile he's chatting online with the bitch who he used to wreck our marriage.

It just doesn't seem fair that he gets to have things so "easy" but that's a vent of a whole different topic.

Ostrich80 posted 4/15/2014 18:36 PM

Every decision has consequences...maybe not immediately but eventually. He's missing out on seeing your beautiful little girls
life. You are her hero, the one that takes care of her and kisses her boo boos when she gets hurt. He will be sorry one day that he chose to go slummin and lost his loving family. Stay strong, she's watching you and will grow to be a strong woman one day and thank you for being her example.

[This message edited by Ostrich80 at 6:37 PM, April 15th (Tuesday)]