Cheating Hurt by Infidelity
Betrayal Wayward Donations lying
Welcome

Forums

Guidelines

Find a Local Counselor

The Healing Library

Media

Contact Us
lies
cover
In Association with Amazon.com
Support
Infidelity -
-

SurvivingInfidelity.com Forum Archives

like us on facebook
You are not logged in. Login here or register.
[Register]
Newest Member: Mercedes66 (46046)

User Topic: No matter the pain... what I just read
Faithful w/Love
♀ 33128
Member # 33128
Default  Posted: 1:35 PM, April 15th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

is nothing of what Phoenix is going through.
Through my pain and sorrow, I could not imagine losing a child or a sibling.

I am blessed to have my children and sibling. I am going to focus on that more. It just dawned on me after reading about poor phoenix, how much I may be over looking because of my sorrow. But, to have and be able to touch and feel my kids is the best blessing in the world. Life is to short for all this drama that was given to me for no reason, but I chose to fight for it when it was already gone. Phoenix didn't have a choice of her beloved child, he was just taken without her getting to hold him or feel his touch. I am blessed and I will hold that close to my heart more.

Life is not as bad as it could be.

What a wake up call for me to count my blessings even more not what is happening that is bad.


BS(ME)40 WH(HIM)38
DD 20 and DS 15
Separated Aug 2012
Moved back home Oct 31 2013
Separated again June 2014. Heading toward divorce.
False R. Still Lying.

"You never know how strong you are until being strong is all you have left"


Posts: 2890 | Registered: Aug 2011
somanyyears
♂ 26970
Member # 26970
Default  Posted: 1:52 PM, April 15th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

..^^^^^^ THIS...

..I can't imagine there being any greater pain than that being endured by Phoenix and her family at this time..

..my troubles pale in comparison..

..prayers sent to Phoenix and her family.

smy


trust no other human- love only your pets
She isn't and never was who I thought..I can't believe who I married and what she did to us.
Me 67
Her 63
Married 42 yrs (together 47)
18 yr LTA with bf


Posts: 4134 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: the sad state of affairs
dmari
♀ 37215
Member # 37215
Helpless  Posted: 2:04 PM, April 15th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


I am speechless. We all need to lift Phoenix1 and her family up in our thoughts and keep them in our hearts. I just can't even wrap my brain around her losses. It is just too much for one person to carry.


Me (BS): 43 Children: DD 19, DS 15
Divorced September 30, 2014
"It's always darkest before the dawn ..."

Posts: 2340 | Registered: Oct 2012
confused615
♀ 30826
Member # 30826
Default  Posted: 2:20 PM, April 15th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I agree. This woman has lost enough. It's too much. Way too much.


BS(me)42
FWH 45
4 kids
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: Reconciled.

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.


Posts: 8086 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Indiana
MadeOfScars
♂ 42231
Member # 42231
Default  Posted: 3:08 PM, April 15th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Dear God...I hadn't ventured into off topic for a while...had no idea. My heart absolutely breaks for this woman. It is beautiful to see all the prayers and compassion sent her way, but damn, no one should have to go through all this in a lifetime, let alone such a short time.


"Donít let the past steal your present. This is the message of Christmas: We are never alone." - Taylor Caldwell

Posts: 1420 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Texas
Faithful w/Love
♀ 33128
Member # 33128
Default  Posted: 3:37 PM, April 15th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I agree Madeofscares,
I just keep feeling her pain today. I could not imagine losing a child. Too much is right!


BS(ME)40 WH(HIM)38
DD 20 and DS 15
Separated Aug 2012
Moved back home Oct 31 2013
Separated again June 2014. Heading toward divorce.
False R. Still Lying.

"You never know how strong you are until being strong is all you have left"


Posts: 2890 | Registered: Aug 2011
sunandmoon
♀ 10180
Member # 10180
Default  Posted: 3:43 PM, April 15th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Amen

sunandmoon


Posts: 1635 | Registered: Mar 2006
jackie89
♀ 38271
Member # 38271
Default  Posted: 4:08 PM, April 15th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Faithful - good post, to remind us what is REALLY important in our lives.

I can't even imagine Phoenix's pain at this very moment.


I edit - because I hate misspellings or grammar mistakes.

Separated/divorcing

"The Secret of Change is to focus all your energy - not on fighting the old, but on building the new" ~~Lori Greiner FB post~~


Posts: 541 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Pennsylvania
ThisHell
♀ 37089
Member # 37089
Default  Posted: 10:50 PM, April 15th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You are so right Faithful. It is very easy to be bogged down by our trials. But oh how my heart breaks for her reading this. I had no idea...

We are all so blessed every day in some way. I just cannot imagine. Tonight my prayers will be very full.


Me:BW, 34/Him:BH, 34/ 3 boys, 5,8,12
4ddays, now Divorced
We are not in Kansas anymore

Posts: 309 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: NC
Unagie
♀ 37091
Member # 37091
Default  Posted: 10:57 PM, April 15th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My heart absolutely bleeds for her. The tragedy of her brother and sister in law, her nieces behaviors and it lifted my spirits to see how supportive her son was being. It absolutely broke my heart to find out what happened to him. I would lose it if I lost my brother let alone to lose a child as well. I pray for her every day.


Heartbroken madhatter trying to rebuild

No longer together

"There are times when our reality is nothing but pain, and to escape that pain the mind must leave reality behind." Patrick Rothfuss


Posts: 2813 | Registered: Oct 2012
ThoughtIKnewYa
♀ 18449
Member # 18449
Default  Posted: 11:16 PM, April 15th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Absolutely. It's unimaginable!

Posts: 11792 | Registered: Mar 2008
MissMouseMo
♀ 38562
Member # 38562
Default  Posted: 1:52 AM, April 16th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You're right, of course, Faithful.

I was watching before her son was missing and felt great empathy (I lost a sibling suddenly, unexpectedly) and wished I could help - and then the absolutely unfathomable happened.

Thanks for bringing it out of OT so others who treasure her but don't frequent that forum can send their comfort, such as any of it is.


It is the gut-wrenching, down-to-your-soul honesty that helps so much. ~paraphrased from CancunCrushed
"I edit, therefore I am." -BionicGal

Posts: 390 | Registered: Feb 2013
Bluebird26
♀ 36445
Member # 36445
Default  Posted: 3:22 AM, April 16th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have lost a child the pain in unimaginable.

But to lose so many family members in such a short period of time if heart wrenching.

Thinking of you ((((Phoenix))))


"Loving someone should not mean losing you. Love empowers you. It shouldn't erase you. - Thelma Davis.

Posts: 1409 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Australia
SBB
♀ 35229
Member # 35229
Default  Posted: 3:44 AM, April 16th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That he was such a tremendous young man makes the loss all the more painful. It is fitting that in his passing he has inspired us to hold our children tight and remind us of the blessings in our lives. He continues to be a blessing - even in this time of unfathomable grief.


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5735 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
Tawnee1969
♀ 12358
Member # 12358
Default  Posted: 4:55 AM, April 16th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

.
I can't imagine there being any greater pain than that being endured by Phoenix and her family at this time..

This x 1000

I am giving extra cuddles today


Is the f*cking you're getting, worth the f*cking you're getting?

Posts: 662 | Registered: Oct 2006
Tawnee1969
♀ 12358
Member # 12358
Default  Posted: 4:55 AM, April 16th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

.
I can't imagine there being any greater pain than that being endured by Phoenix and her family at this time..

This x 1000

I am giving extra cuddles today


Is the f*cking you're getting, worth the f*cking you're getting?

Posts: 662 | Registered: Oct 2006
Topic Posts: 16

Return to Forum This Topic is Archived
adultry
madness  
© 2002 - 2014 SurvivingInfidelity.com. All Rights Reserved.