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Topic: Wish me luck please first MC tonight

brokeninhalf4034
♀ 42977
Member # 42977

Posted: 2:46 PM, April 15th (Tuesday), 2014

I am so nervous. Had a good day today with WS. Now I feel like we are suiting up for battle.

Me-BS 40
WS-38 LTA with co-worker
Together 10+ - Married almost 1 year (DDay is week before anniv)

"The desire to love someone always exceeds the desire to be loved by someone & that's exactly why we end up loving the person who doesn&

Posts: 83 | Registered: Apr 2014 | From: Brooklyn, NY

forgivingnow
♀ 33549
Member # 33549

Posted: 4:09 PM, April 15th (Tuesday), 2014

Good luck tonight. Take a small notebook, it's hard to remember some things when there is so much emotion. Respond calmly, share what you feel. You won't figure out or understand everything in one night. It's a process. Be there for each other.

Me-BS 52
FWH-51
M 31 yrs.
Dday 3-19-11, TT 10/2011, Full truth July 2013
Strength comes from within. You can't get it from someone or go somewhere to get it. It is already here, waiting to be used when you need it most. Believe in yourself.
R

Posts: 648 | Registered: Oct 2011

Skan
♀ 35812
Member # 35812

Posted: 6:22 PM, April 15th (Tuesday), 2014

This is just the first day of many. Take a deep breath, remember to breathe, and settle in for the long-haul. If you're unclear about something, ask for clarification or examples. If you don't agree with something, speak up. And never let your pain be marginalized.

Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012

Posts: 5560 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California

OakStreet
♀ 41193
Member # 41193

Posted: 7:34 PM, April 15th (Tuesday), 2014

Good Luck broken!

I found the MC sessions to be a relief - a neutral, calming field.

Our first MC was not a good "fit" - they can't ALL be good - so if you don't feel comfortable with this one, don't give up!

Hope it goes well. There will still be rough times ahead, but MC is a great place to be.

Me: 58
Him: 65
Married: 21 years (well, we'll say 19 now!).
One son: 19, 2 adult stepdaughters
DDay: Oct. 14, 2013
18 month EA/PA with COW
Dday #2: 4/16/14 - took it underground for 5 months.
Haven't decided on outcome.

Posts: 580 | Registered: Nov 2013

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