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Leia (original poster member #42510) posted at 10:45 PM on Tuesday, April 15th, 2014
Has anyone been involved in a child custody investigation? I have my first appointment with one tomorrow. I talked to my L and have gotten the documents that I need together. (aside, my L told me to smile more....not sure how to take that....) I'm really nervous and would appreciate some pointers. The thing about us is that he isn't a bad dad. I've read the horrors some others have been involved in here on SI, and while he's cheating scum and a rat bastard, he's always been good to the kids. Thanks for listening.
"Somebody get this walking carpet out of my way." Princess Leia, Star Wars
devistatedmom ( member #24961) posted at 11:37 PM on Tuesday, April 15th, 2014
I know many here have had this done. I'm sure they will be along soon. Just wanted you to know you have been heard, and bump it back up for you for replies!
Just take a deep breath. Be truthful. You can do this. 
BS(me) 46, Two wonderful teens.
He is no longer my best friend. Repeat until it sticks.
WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.
Nature_Girl ( member #32554) posted at 11:40 PM on Tuesday, April 15th, 2014
Do you mean a parenting evaluation? If he's a good dad, why is any investigation or evaluation being done at all?
Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
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Leia (original poster member #42510) posted at 1:39 AM on Wednesday, April 16th, 2014
Because he has a job (currently) that involves a lot of travel (where he met his AP). And I don't think yanking the kids between houses every other week is good for them. Apparently, it is pretty common in our county.
"Somebody get this walking carpet out of my way." Princess Leia, Star Wars
Catwoman ( member #1330) posted at 10:23 AM on Wednesday, April 16th, 2014
How old are the children? I know folks with older kids that find this an effective arrangement. I don't think it's good for the younger set, though.
Can he and does he schedule his travel around the kids' schedule? If not, I wouldn't do the 50/50 because you cannot be counted on him to take his week and you will likely be picking up the slack.
My ex traveled a great deal, so I got primary physical and joint legal AND he had to give me a minimum of 48 hours' notice when he could not take his parenting time. Perhaps something like that is helpful to you.
If he's not a bad father, why the evaluation?
Cat
FBS: Married 20 years, 2 daughters 27 and 24. Divorced by the grace of GOD.
D-Days: 2/23/93; 10/11/97; 3/5/03
Ex & OW Broke up 12-10
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ChoosingHope ( member #33606) posted at 6:32 AM on Thursday, April 17th, 2014
I did a nine-month custody eval. I don't think it's necessary for you to do one, given your situation. Who recommended it?
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