I do not coparent with ex-shat...so there isn't really a dialogue going on between us regarding Teslet. I only share with him necessary information regarding Teslet that he would not have access to. So that means if Teslet has to go to the ER, if he requires some sort of medical treatment, dates and times of appointments. He has access to the school and so can find out about those things if he so desired, so I don't bother to send him information aside from say the enrollment package.
I was trying to before...but all the work and effort was being done on my side. So I stopped and figured when he shows me he wants to actually be a coparent and not just have a lackey fill him in so he can *feel* as if he is an involved parent, then great, I'll be ready to coparent.
Guess what? I've been pretty much silent except for the absolutely necessary for six months and he has not made one attempt to involve himself or inquire. Oh wait...take that back. About a month ago, he texted me asking what I thought about Teslet taking horseback riding lessons. I gave my opinion. We had what I thought was a productive exchange that ended in my stating that I'd like to attend the first riding lesson to get comfortable with the stable and set up. That was the closest to coparenting we got because on the day of the lesson (Teslet was with his father that weekend), I show up but they don't. Didn't call the stable or me to let me know.
This told me that there was something ulterior going on here and not something that was actually to benefit Teslet. Co-parenting fail.
Anyway, in my longwinded way, I'm saying that he's going to whine about the kids thing because he probably didn't realize how much work it was and how much he relied on you to provide him with info. Oh well. He can learn to step up to the plate and inform himself and then start the dialogue...if that is what really is important to him.