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Wayflost posted 4/15/2014 18:10 PM

I'm struggling a lot right now in IC. So I'm trying to counteract it by posting about some positive things that have come to pass in my life recently.

First: I went to my first CoDA meeting. It was amazing, and the powerful connective thread of the themes between people really touched me. I cried multiple times while other people were speaking. That first meeting they discussed gratitude, and I was really impressed. My next meeting was powerful in a completely different way. I have so much to learn, and I am no longer feeling so totally isolated. That is something to be truly grateful for.

Second: My BH has made a huge leap in his healing these past couple of weeks. I wish I could say my attitude had helped, but I think it's mostly self healing that has occurred. But he told me that he had finally seen that I had been offered a whole other life, and yet I still chose to stay in this one. He thanked me for giving us a chance to try for R. That's huge, and I'm overwhelmed by it.

It rocks me to my core that he is so gracious. My BH really is one of the most incredible people I know. No, he is the most incredible person I know. For that I am grateful.

badchoice posted 4/15/2014 19:14 PM

Nice to read a positive post. THat is all so great.

I have found CoDA very helpful in my healing as well, on so many levels. One thing that is has really helped me with is boundaries, understanding them, and being able to keep healthy ones.

Good luck to you!

Springanew posted 4/16/2014 05:56 AM

what is CoDA

authenticnow posted 4/16/2014 05:57 AM

Codependents Anonymous

Here's the description from the website:
A fellowship of men and women whose common purpose is to develop healthy relationships.

[This message edited by SI Staff at 5:58 AM, April 16th (Wednesday)]

sunnyrain posted 4/16/2014 07:09 AM

Gratitude is such a powerful, beautiful thing. Thank you for sharing your experience! It was a nice reminder for me this morning.

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