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Wayflost (original poster member #41583) posted at 12:10 AM on Wednesday, April 16th, 2014
I'm struggling a lot right now in IC. So I'm trying to counteract it by posting about some positive things that have come to pass in my life recently.
First: I went to my first CoDA meeting. It was amazing, and the powerful connective thread of the themes between people really touched me. I cried multiple times while other people were speaking. That first meeting they discussed gratitude, and I was really impressed. My next meeting was powerful in a completely different way. I have so much to learn, and I am no longer feeling so totally isolated. That is something to be truly grateful for.
Second: My BH has made a huge leap in his healing these past couple of weeks. I wish I could say my attitude had helped, but I think it's mostly self healing that has occurred. But he told me that he had finally seen that I had been offered a whole other life, and yet I still chose to stay in this one. He thanked me for giving us a chance to try for R. That's huge, and I'm overwhelmed by it.
It rocks me to my core that he is so gracious. My BH really is one of the most incredible people I know. No, he is the most incredible person I know. For that I am grateful.
"Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don't matter at all, because once you are Real you can't be ugly."
badchoice ( member #35566) posted at 1:14 AM on Wednesday, April 16th, 2014
Nice to read a positive post. THat is all so great.
I have found CoDA very helpful in my healing as well, on so many levels. One thing that is has really helped me with is boundaries, understanding them, and being able to keep healthy ones.
Good luck to you!
Me: fWH/BH 46
Separated transitioning to D
Springanew ( new member #42912) posted at 11:56 AM on Wednesday, April 16th, 2014
Me: WW,40
Him: BH, 39
Together 6 and 1/2 yrs
Married: 4 yrs
authenticnow ( member #16024) posted at 11:57 AM on Wednesday, April 16th, 2014
Codependents Anonymous
Here's the description from the website:
A fellowship of men and women whose common purpose is to develop healthy relationships.
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DS, you are forever in my heart. Thank you for sharing your beautiful spirit with me. I will always try to live by the example you have set. I love you and miss you every day and am sorry you had to go so soon, it just doesn't seem fair.
sunnyrain ( member #30164) posted at 1:09 PM on Wednesday, April 16th, 2014
Gratitude is such a powerful, beautiful thing. Thank you for sharing your experience! It was a nice reminder for me this morning.
"I'm not much into health food, I am into champagne."
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