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I know people have bigger problems. But jeez, could I catch a break?

Ran a ton of errands today. Picked up my tax return, I'm getting a big refund. Yay!

Got a call from the contractor fixing my house. A delivery truck leaving my house collapsed the bridge.

Which is the only access to my house.

Which means the closest I can get my truck to my house is about 50 yards away.

Which means I have to call even more contractors to fix my bridge.

Which, it turns out, means that my dam, of which the bridge is a part, is old, decrepit, and in need of major repairs.

Like, $50,000 dollars in repairs.

Kinda takes the joy out of that big tax refund.

And I immediately went there.

If I had had a loving, faithful wife, who cared about me and about maintaining our home, then I would have been able to do the maintenance around the farm that needed to be done. I had been looking for a contractor to fix my then-small problem with the dam during what turned out to be her affair period. But with all the other farm maintenance I was doing alone, and then the trauma of D-Day, all that went out the window.

So yes, I blame her for the problem I have today.

The collapsed bridge means that the restoration work on my home is on hold until I get a temporary fix in place. Which means I need to pay for a temporary fix, then pay again for a permanent fix.

But I'm unemployed, living off the money I saved for retirement as it is.

FML.

(((((TH))))) Ugh. $50,000 is INSANE. I'm so sorry.

((((((Trustedher)))))))

So sorry man, wish I could do something to help.

I know people have bigger problems. But jeez, could I catch a break?

You could always argue someone somewhere always has it worse, but it doesn't mean your problem is any less for you. You do deserve a break. Sorry you're having another setback.

Does the delivery company have insurance? They destroyed it after all....

Oh TH, I so totally get it. I've been looking for that break too. We are in the same place, my friend.

Is there any way to take a breath? Are you sure it needs to be $50,000??? Yikes! Maybe someone (a contractor) has a different idea on how to fix it and save you some cash?

I wish I could help you. That really sucks.

TH, have you ever seen the movie "Money Pit" with Tom Hanks? I just had a vision of your upstairs tub (if there is one) crash and you laughing like an idiot. I don't mean to make light. I walked away from a 104 year old house. I've been through the wars. I'm just at a "fuck it" place in my life. Everything is funny.

Best wishes getting it taken care of. I know it sucks, but at some point screw it. If we couldn't laugh we just would go insane.

That sucks ... sorry to hear, is there any way insurance would cover the bridge? It is access to your house after all.

Ick! (((((TrustedHer)))))

I'm so sorry. I agree, maybe another estimate will be lower?