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 TrustedHer (original poster member #23328) posted at 1:12 AM on Wednesday, April 16th, 2014

I know people have bigger problems. But jeez, could I catch a break?

Ran a ton of errands today. Picked up my tax return, I'm getting a big refund. Yay!

Got a call from the contractor fixing my house. A delivery truck leaving my house collapsed the bridge.

Which is the only access to my house.

Which means the closest I can get my truck to my house is about 50 yards away.

Which means I have to call even more contractors to fix my bridge.

Which, it turns out, means that my dam, of which the bridge is a part, is old, decrepit, and in need of major repairs.

Like, $50,000 dollars in repairs.

Kinda takes the joy out of that big tax refund.

And I immediately went there.

If I had had a loving, faithful wife, who cared about me and about maintaining our home, then I would have been able to do the maintenance around the farm that needed to be done. I had been looking for a contractor to fix my then-small problem with the dam during what turned out to be her affair period. But with all the other farm maintenance I was doing alone, and then the trauma of D-Day, all that went out the window.

So yes, I blame her for the problem I have today.

The collapsed bridge means that the restoration work on my home is on hold until I get a temporary fix in place. Which means I need to pay for a temporary fix, then pay again for a permanent fix.

But I'm unemployed, living off the money I saved for retirement as it is.

FML.

Take care of yourself. There's a great future out there. It won't come to you; you have to go to it.

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nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 1:20 AM on Wednesday, April 16th, 2014

(((((TH))))) Ugh. $50,000 is INSANE. I'm so sorry.

You can call me NIK

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Kajem ( member #36134) posted at 1:28 AM on Wednesday, April 16th, 2014

((((((Trustedher)))))))

I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - UnknownRelationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

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MadeOfScars ( member #42231) posted at 1:35 AM on Wednesday, April 16th, 2014

So sorry man, wish I could do something to help.

I know people have bigger problems. But jeez, could I catch a break?

You could always argue someone somewhere always has it worse, but it doesn't mean your problem is any less for you. You do deserve a break. Sorry you're having another setback.

"Incredible change happens in your life when you decide to take control of what you do have power over instead of craving control over what you don’t." - Steve Maraboli

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SpecialK ( member #42372) posted at 1:36 AM on Wednesday, April 16th, 2014

Does the delivery company have insurance? They destroyed it after all....

And miles to go......

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devistatedmom ( member #24961) posted at 1:59 AM on Wednesday, April 16th, 2014

Oh TH, I so totally get it. I've been looking for that break too. We are in the same place, my friend.

Is there any way to take a breath? Are you sure it needs to be $50,000??? Yikes! Maybe someone (a contractor) has a different idea on how to fix it and save you some cash?

I wish I could help you. That really sucks.

BS(me) 46, Two wonderful teens.
He is no longer my best friend. Repeat until it sticks.

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EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.

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sunsetslost ( member #39885) posted at 2:15 AM on Wednesday, April 16th, 2014

TH, have you ever seen the movie "Money Pit" with Tom Hanks? I just had a vision of your upstairs tub (if there is one) crash and you laughing like an idiot. I don't mean to make light. I walked away from a 104 year old house. I've been through the wars. I'm just at a "fuck it" place in my life. Everything is funny.

Best wishes getting it taken care of. I know it sucks, but at some point screw it. If we couldn't laugh we just would go insane.

Divorced 7/11/14. New Beginning on the Gulf of Mexico. It's real nice.

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BAB61 ( member #41181) posted at 6:02 AM on Wednesday, April 16th, 2014

That sucks ... sorry to hear, is there any way insurance would cover the bridge? It is access to your house after all.

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2nd D-day 12/7/2013 LTA/Rendezvous
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norabird ( member #42092) posted at 6:04 AM on Wednesday, April 16th, 2014

Ick! (((((TrustedHer)))))

I'm so sorry. I agree, maybe another estimate will be lower?

Sit. Feast on your life.

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