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TrustedHer posted 4/15/2014 19:12 PM

I know people have bigger problems. But jeez, could I catch a break?

Ran a ton of errands today. Picked up my tax return, I'm getting a big refund. Yay!

Got a call from the contractor fixing my house. A delivery truck leaving my house collapsed the bridge.

Which is the only access to my house.

Which means the closest I can get my truck to my house is about 50 yards away.

Which means I have to call even more contractors to fix my bridge.

Which, it turns out, means that my dam, of which the bridge is a part, is old, decrepit, and in need of major repairs.

Like, $50,000 dollars in repairs.

Kinda takes the joy out of that big tax refund.

And I immediately went there.

If I had had a loving, faithful wife, who cared about me and about maintaining our home, then I would have been able to do the maintenance around the farm that needed to be done. I had been looking for a contractor to fix my then-small problem with the dam during what turned out to be her affair period. But with all the other farm maintenance I was doing alone, and then the trauma of D-Day, all that went out the window.

So yes, I blame her for the problem I have today.

The collapsed bridge means that the restoration work on my home is on hold until I get a temporary fix in place. Which means I need to pay for a temporary fix, then pay again for a permanent fix.

But I'm unemployed, living off the money I saved for retirement as it is.

FML.

nowiknow23 posted 4/15/2014 19:20 PM

(((((TH))))) Ugh. $50,000 is INSANE. I'm so sorry.

Kajem posted 4/15/2014 19:28 PM

((((((Trustedher)))))))

MadeOfScars posted 4/15/2014 19:35 PM

So sorry man, wish I could do something to help.

I know people have bigger problems. But jeez, could I catch a break?

You could always argue someone somewhere always has it worse, but it doesn't mean your problem is any less for you. You do deserve a break. Sorry you're having another setback.

SpecialK posted 4/15/2014 19:36 PM

Does the delivery company have insurance? They destroyed it after all....

devistatedmom posted 4/15/2014 19:59 PM

Oh TH, I so totally get it. I've been looking for that break too. We are in the same place, my friend.

Is there any way to take a breath? Are you sure it needs to be $50,000??? Yikes! Maybe someone (a contractor) has a different idea on how to fix it and save you some cash?

I wish I could help you. That really sucks.

sunsetslost posted 4/15/2014 20:15 PM

TH, have you ever seen the movie "Money Pit" with Tom Hanks? I just had a vision of your upstairs tub (if there is one) crash and you laughing like an idiot. I don't mean to make light. I walked away from a 104 year old house. I've been through the wars. I'm just at a "fuck it" place in my life. Everything is funny.

Best wishes getting it taken care of. I know it sucks, but at some point screw it. If we couldn't laugh we just would go insane.

BAB61 posted 4/16/2014 00:02 AM

That sucks ... sorry to hear, is there any way insurance would cover the bridge? It is access to your house after all.

norabird posted 4/16/2014 00:04 AM

Ick! (((((TrustedHer)))))

I'm so sorry. I agree, maybe another estimate will be lower?

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