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I truly believe this is having a huge impact on his actions. Anybody in R found that once their WS was able to get on meds & IC. That a true change happened?

Hi Broken,

My WS also had severe depression, and started meds just after D-day. He was also diagnosed with ADHD. Up until then he had been self-medicating with alcohol (not very smart).

After starting on anti-depressants, and seeing his IC, his whole outlook and attitude changed for the better. It took about 6 weeks for the meds to work, but it was worth the wait. The only downside (if you can call it that) was that when he began to realise that all of the things happening around him were BECAUSE of him, he got really angry at himself, and his IC spent a lot of time helping him with self-hatred and negative self-talk.

7 months out, and things are going really well, but without the meds and IC, I really don't think we stood a chance.

Good Luck!

YES! My WH was also using alcohol to self medicate. He's finally on AD's (still won't do counseling) and it has made a huge difference. Like Allornothing, I didn't think we would make it. I finally told my hw that I felt like the A was someone else's life. I feel like we are finally "us" again and probably even better...I NEVER thought I would be one to say that.