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betrayedidiot posted 4/15/2014 20:57 PM

My DD doesn't seem to want to sleep over at WH's new apartment. He says I should support him in needing time with her. I don't want to cause her more stress than necessary. Does anyone have advice?

Caretaker1 posted 4/15/2014 20:59 PM

Yes, coach her to try. It's important she has daddy time and needs to get used to transitions. I'm sure this divorce is stressful. Look into counseling for her also if you feel it is needed.

[This message edited by Caretaker1 at 9:35 PM, April 15th (Tuesday)]

Leia posted 4/15/2014 21:19 PM

I agree with Caretaker. My DD has had trouble sleeping at my place because I'm the one that moved and got different furniture. Let her know that it is ok to spend time with him at his house. I also checked out books at the library about D for the kids. It helped them to read about it and understand that things were going to be separate.

Nature_Girl posted 4/15/2014 23:22 PM

Why does she have to spend the night? Why make that the hill to die on? Good Lord, coerce a 16-year old to sleep over? Why? She's old enough to make that decision on her own, isn't she? Wouldn't it be better to let her set the terms?

Bluebird26 posted 4/16/2014 06:05 AM

I agree if your DD is 16 why is she been made to go? Surely she is old enough to make that decision on her own.

Perhaps she is worried about leaving you alone? Perhaps she doesn't accept what WH has done?

My advice would be to get her into counselling, maybe her school can help you?

Sadmumma posted 4/16/2014 11:07 AM

Hmm... Should she be encouraged to have a relationship with her father... Absolutely....

Should she be forced to sleep over.. No.. Give it time, let her build her comfort zone in his new life.... It will come. By pushing her into it you could push her away.