Oh yes. Tooth and nail. For years!
She still has not admitted much and sounds much like your wgf. But that is all too common with cheating liars.
I am sorry you are here cannibal (btw I hope that your moniker is a reference you're wgf).
You may have to find another mc. One that isn't afraid of the hard part - confronting the past. Unfortunately many mc's will take the easy route if you let them.
There are two primary aspects for the repair of a broken relationship. Forgiveness and reconciliation.
Forgiveness is a choice that is completely on the victim. You must decide whether to forgive. But you can forgive someone and still not like them. Forgiveness releases the victim from holding onto the pain.
Reconciliation is the process of rebuilding trust in a relationship and is almost completely on the perpetrator. The full name of the process is "Truth and Reconciliation". It has been used to great success in South Africa and Rwanda for horrible crimes of violence.
Notice that Truth comes first. The perpetrators have to admit the truth, show remorse and do the slow work it takes to rebuild trust.
If your wgf isn't willing to do the work then I suggest she isn't wife material. Good riddance.
On the topic of Home Depot or Pro Bass it's a tough question. While it's good to want to reclaim that store it's generally not recommended to put a fws in a position to break nc. You should not be bothered that she doesn't want to chance seeing him. It could just as easily mean that she is disgusted by her A and doesn't want to be reminded.
I'd say don't push it - besides your first issue of basic trust and reconciliation is far more important. That will decide your future together.
Good luck to you cannibal.