Stbxwh has told me he is thinking about keeping our house.
I am not keeping the house. For starters, I can't afford it without totally sacrificing any quality of life- even with the cs I might get. Selling the house or getting out of the house would be a chance for me to get out of some debt, start fresh with independence- something I'm really looking forward to. In a smaller house, I could manage the property and home on my own and be able to save money for things like vacations, education for the kids, etc... I have, emotionally, come to terms with leaving my home. I'm actually a little excited about it. A new adventure of a life that is ALL MINE.
I am, however, slightly bothered by the idea of HIM keeping it, though. Our house is on the lake. It's beautiful- we built it. We have lived here since 2001. I just feel insecure about how our kids will love coming to their old home with Dad and play on the lake in the boat etc. and then go back to their smaller home with Mom...I know it shouldn't make a difference...but it's bothering me.
Bothering me even more is the possibility of him moving HER into the house. Have any of you had to go through this? She lives in another province and there has been no talk lately of her moving, but I likely would be the last to know if stbxwh is finally making things official with her. I'm positive they are waiting until the dust settles to make things look like it wasn't on the tail end of the A just based on comments stbxwh made about OW not "wanting to be a home wrecker" etc... I also do not see how he will afford to keep the house unless he has someone else in here.
I just need to vent. What kind of a woman moves into the AP's house without batting an eyelash? I mean, if that were me I would constantly feel upset about memories in the house, etc- the ghosts of the past. Especially with the young kids of the marriage visiting!!! Is nothing sacred to these people? I live in a small area and it will really bother me if she moves here and they move into another house and I have to bump into them at the only grocery store, etc....but if they are in my old house??? Cheese and rice- that will just destroy me!
I said as much to my stbxwh at one point- not that I expect him to care about my feelings...but, c'mon!
It's just something I find so unfair and so sad and infuriating.