What are some helpful things to do to boost yourself up again?
Change of scenery. Get up, go for a walk, get fresh air, see something new, refocus your energy for ten minutes, and then start new.
Divide and concur until you succeed. If you feel like you're failing, you're probably overwhelmed, so break it down into manageable pieces and take care of them.
I want to be with someone who lifts me up, not dissects me and beats me down. Some people just don't get that. I can do bad all by myself thank you very much.
"You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have." ~ Bob Marley
I remind myself how much I have accomplished.
Music. Play something upbeat and empowering. A song that lifts you and makes you feel good.
Do one simple thing that you can't fail at - like a load of laundry, taking out the recycling, or paying a bill. Something that needs to get done and is easy. It will give you a little positive bump that you can build on.
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
You deserve that gift. I really believe that accepting your path in life, with all of your errors included, and stopping beating yourself up about it pays huge dividends.
The past is past. Don't hold it over your head while trying to move forward.
When you are ready ask yourself is the criticism valid if not then disregard if you want to improve then make a plan.
Every moment is a fresh start!
Be good to yourself!
But you can also ask people who KNOW you in real life to write down three words, five words, your best trait, favorite memory, to describe YOU, the YOU that others see. Then read those. over and over and over. Post the words, next to some of your favorite pictures of you doing some pretty awesome things (parasailing???) and realize that HOLY HELL YOU ROCK!!!!
You are bright. You are witty. You are kind. You are humble. You are strong. You are one of the strongest people I know.
You are cute. You are healthy. You are adventurous, spunky, and funny. You have a great smile.
NOW. Go get some more and accept that it is truth.
We are so good at negative self talk. It takes conscious training to break that habit. Starting with other perspectives is a baby step to transitioning to positive self talk. YOU CAN DO IT!!
I am reminded of an exercise in psychology class I took a long time ago. Take a person and hammer them with criticism and ask them to resist pressure on a raised arm. They are physically weaker than when given praise and repeating the exercise. Whether the participant believes the compliments/criticism or not, the effect of the words is clear.
Yes, a lot of times these feelings occur during my "monthly bill," but these feelings can be so damned depressing to the point where I do not know whether it's a good decision to purchase milk. It may spoil before I have time to drink it!!! Crazy.
No advice. I think everyone who has responded gave you some great ideas. Just wanted to let you know you're not alone. I'll be trying to practice some of these suggestions too.
"Before you diagnose yourself with depression or anxiety, check to be sure that you are not, in fact, just surrounded by assholes."
Or something like that, may have misquoted a word or two. Are people really pointing out your errors or are you the one doing that? Either way, try to surround yourself with as much positivity as you can. If these people are coworkers or people you can't otherwise escape then develop an arsenal of happy things to offset their negative energy. Anything that makes you happy...pictures, quotes, smells, lotions, fuzzy slippers, etc.
It's amazing how my anxious personality and depressive symptoms released their grip when I released toxic people from my life (sometimes just symbolically in terms of not letting their energy zap mine anymore, or by getting better at boundaries so I didn't have to completely cut them out of my life) and that included my toxic relationship with myself. I stopped being as mean to myself as other people had been to me. I've screwed up. So what? We all have. I know I'll continue to make mistakes and will also continue to learn from them and to do some pretty great things too!
More concrete ways - exercise for endorphins, take in some fresh air, new hair cut, mani/pedi, listen to some feel good music, yoga, dance as silly as you can around your house, check in with an old friend...these all sound small and they are, they're not long lasting but can show you that you can feel good about yourself again, even briefly, and that might start the ball rolling. Also maybe join a volunteer group or do something that allows you to feel good about what you can do for your community?