Me: BS 60
FWH established NC in mid February via email. AP left 5 voice mails (3 min.each) on Monday. FWH has left them on his phone in case I want to hear them.
Says she has only 18 months to live.
The background is PA ended 10/12 but EA continued until I don't know when. I moved out Sept 2013 and bought a house. NC with FWH, except a few phone calls until mid Jan this year. We met and he was the man I married, the fog was finally gone. We have been in R since then though living separately. I guess we are dating? R is going well up to now.
However, while we were not in contact AP found out she had breast cancer and wanted FWH to take her to appts and be with her for surgery(masectomy and lumpectomy), etc. KISA again!
Once we got back together, she told him she didn't need him to help her with the surgery (end of Jan), although she kept calling him. As a precondition to R, I had told FWH that all contact had to stop and he complied. He finally seemed to get that my feelings should come before hers.
We don't know if she is really dying or what and FWH says he doesn't care. The AP seems to have BP disorder and is a real loony as well. As a minor example she once yelled over the phone to me that "your husband has betrayed me!"
Anyway, I guess my question is what to do now?
He: F?WH 71
Married 32 years.
DDay March 2012
Separated since September 2013.
Trying to reconcile.
I am the master of my fate:
I am the captain of my soul.
William Ernest Henley