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Gardenerinpain posted 4/16/2014 09:10 AM

FWH established NC in mid February via email. AP left 5 voice mails (3 min.each) on Monday. FWH has left them on his phone in case I want to hear them.
Says she has only 18 months to live.
The background is PA ended 10/12 but EA continued until I don't know when. I moved out Sept 2013 and bought a house. NC with FWH, except a few phone calls until mid Jan this year. We met and he was the man I married, the fog was finally gone. We have been in R since then though living separately. I guess we are dating? R is going well up to now.
However, while we were not in contact AP found out she had breast cancer and wanted FWH to take her to appts and be with her for surgery(masectomy and lumpectomy), etc. KISA again!
Once we got back together, she told him she didn't need him to help her with the surgery (end of Jan), although she kept calling him. As a precondition to R, I had told FWH that all contact had to stop and he complied. He finally seemed to get that my feelings should come before hers.
We don't know if she is really dying or what and FWH says he doesn't care. The AP seems to have BP disorder and is a real loony as well. As a minor example she once yelled over the phone to me that "your husband has betrayed me!"
Anyway, I guess my question is what to do now?

Rebreather posted 4/16/2014 09:14 AM

You do nothing. Well, block her number. That's it.

karmahappens posted 4/16/2014 09:18 AM

I agree with Rebreather.

She needs to find her own support system if she is seriously ill. The days of borrowing yours are over.

If she isn't dying it is a cruel, shitty ploy.

bionicgal posted 4/16/2014 09:22 AM

Yep - block. She doesn't exist. I am sorry if she is alone or unhappy, but that is her life. You have yours.

[This message edited by bionicgal at 11:44 AM, April 16th (Wednesday)]

Gardenerinpain posted 4/16/2014 10:08 AM

Thank you all for telling me what I knew inside Please wish us a good future as I do for everyone here. I only found SI about a month ago. I sure wish I had found it a lot, lot sooner. Bless you all!

4everfaithful83 posted 4/16/2014 12:02 PM

Don't just block her number, have him change his phone number AND then block her number. There's no reason for her to be able to contact you or your WH at all.

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