Me: Enjoying life
Earlier this month my dday anniversary rolled past. I did okay with it. I'm busy, happy, planning for my vacation, making new friends, and even going on a date tonight.
A couple of days ago I did something I haven't done in awhile. I googled OW's name. She has a very unusual name so literally everything that comes up in a search is for her, specifically. I did this a lot after dday, but not for a long time now. The google search reveals that she was arrested back in February for 6 counts of parole violation. I assume this relates back to her conviction for embezzling many thousands of dollars from a former employer, an older gentleman she worked for for 21 years. She did time in jail for this. I don't know what the conditions of her parole are, but apparently she's been disregarding them.
Then as I'm texting later with my (x)stepdaughter about a birthday party that was taking place, she reveals that OW "can't drive". XWH has to drive her everywhere, including to and from work. I don't know if she lost her license or what. When I knew her she had a car and drove no problem. In any case, XWH must love that hassle.
The other thing I did was look at XWH's facebook page. The whole thing, as he has it fairly open. I've had him blocked and haven't done this in a very long time. It was like looking at a stranger's page. Endless posts about sports stats, which he HATES. Posts about country music, which he HATES. Even posts about "...blah blah blah my beautiful girl blah..." just seem so fake and desperate. Some very unflattering selfies, where he clearly thinks he looks hot. One photo of him and OW, not great of either of them. She looks totally annoyed. He remains utterly friendless so his posts and photos have either no likes/comments or a few from members of OW's family.
The only thing that upset me was a comment on a childhood photo he posted of himself. OW's stepmother comments: "Adorable! I'm sure you were as good a little boy as you are a good MAN!"
Wow. I feel so sorry for this family. OW knew he was a liar and a cheater, so she deserves whatever she gets. But this family! They have no idea the sociopathic, soulless person they've let into their family and obviously their hearts. When they've served their purpose, he will move on and never look back, just like he did to me and my family, who loved him. I did have a brief evil fantasy of emailing this woman with the truth, but I would never do that. It's not worth it, and not my problem.
I know, somehow just know... that I won't ever look at his fb again. I won't ever google her name again. I think I've arrived at indifference? If not, I'm at least in the same county and getting there at a good pace.
OW and XWH are a perfect match. Both selfish. Both liars. Both cheaters. Both morally bankrupt in every way. They are a perfect match.
Him: Someone else's problem
Follow your heart, but take your brain with you. ~ Alfred Adler
Letting go of the outcome is about the most empowering thing you can do for yourself. ~ LosferWords