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 justasinger (original poster member #43031) posted at 5:45 PM on Wednesday, April 16th, 2014

ok, so before I chop all my hair off, what do you all think? background... I went my entire adult life with a crew cut (military) til 09, then after getting out I let it grow. not sure what my deal is, if I thought I looked younger with no hair (and if I want to look older or younger), but anyway, here they are... (if I did it right..)

BSO -me 38
WSO - her 30
2x DD ages 6 and 4
D-day #1 APR08 (supposed ONS w/OM)
D-day #2 1JAN13 2x ONS w/OM and OW, and a ONS
D-day #3 22APR14 (admitted to another ONS that she didn't fess up to during DDay #2)

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Undefinabl3 ( member #36883) posted at 5:52 PM on Wednesday, April 16th, 2014

Honestly, I think that you look good in both pictures.

That said, I think that you fit more with the short hair then with the long.

What if you did something with more length?

You and David Beckham, Zac Efron, Ben Afleck....ect - have that very narrow oval face. You can actually pull off a more medium male cut.

Me: 35 MH
Him: 41 MH
New online find 6/19/14 - shit
Phone Find 11/21/14 - I can't even right now.
1/26/15 - Started IC for me, DH won't go.
1/10/18 - Again?!? Online EA's

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dameia ( member #36072) posted at 5:54 PM on Wednesday, April 16th, 2014

I like the shorter hair! I think it's more flattering because it shows off your bone structure.

Me: BS
D-Day: 7/7/12

Trust is like paper. Once it's crumpled it can never be perfect again.

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GabyBaby ( member #26928) posted at 5:54 PM on Wednesday, April 16th, 2014

Chop it!

Both look good, but the shorter hair looks better.

Me - late 40s
DD(27), DS(24, PDD-NOS)

WH#2 (SorryinSac)- Killed himself (May 2015) in our home 6 days after being served divorce docs.
XWH #1 - legally married 18yrs. 12+ OW (that I know of).

I edit often for clarity/typos.

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Amazonia ( member #32810) posted at 5:57 PM on Wednesday, April 16th, 2014

My response is conditional: are you a Ren Faire kind of guy? If so, keep it long. If not, chop chop!

"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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 justasinger (original poster member #43031) posted at 6:05 PM on Wednesday, April 16th, 2014

not sure what a ren faire kind of guy is. I had originally started growing it out to look a bit like Jake Owen, but after a few really horrible attempts to straighten my own hair, realized I'm just not the kind of person that can have hair that needs time preparing.

BSO -me 38
WSO - her 30
2x DD ages 6 and 4
D-day #1 APR08 (supposed ONS w/OM)
D-day #2 1JAN13 2x ONS w/OM and OW, and a ONS
D-day #3 22APR14 (admitted to another ONS that she didn't fess up to during DDay #2)

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simplydevastated ( member #25001) posted at 6:10 PM on Wednesday, April 16th, 2014

Cut it. Short hair looks better on you.

Me - BS, 40 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS11, DD8
Getting my ducks in a row for divorce... finally (4+ D-Days too many - listed in profile.)

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JanaGreen ( member #29341) posted at 6:13 PM on Wednesday, April 16th, 2014

but after a few really horrible attempts to straighten my own hair, realized I'm just not the kind of person that can have hair that needs time preparing.

LOL, I feel the same way. Although my XX chromosomes do give me the ability to operate a straightening iron, my laziness prevents me from actually doing it most mornings.

I think the short hair suits you better, although you do look good either way. I tend to longer hair on guys, but not long-long - more at shaggy, kind of like Undefinabl posted but not so "done."

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Crescita ( member #32616) posted at 6:16 PM on Wednesday, April 16th, 2014

Just looked up Jake Owen. You don't need to straighten it, just go get a few layers! You are almost there and it would look great on you. If it doesn't work, then you can chop it all off

“Happiness cannot be pursued; it must ensue.” ― Viktor E. Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning

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She11ybeanz ( member #27457) posted at 6:16 PM on Wednesday, April 16th, 2014

OMGosh...you are a cutie pie either way...but I'm kinda privy to the longer on you....what about something imbetween!!!?

"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12

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 justasinger (original poster member #43031) posted at 6:22 PM on Wednesday, April 16th, 2014

Just went through a few pics while looking for one of me with short hair...

This next one I think is my favorite...

and finally, I did find one of me with short hair... I'm on the far left...

BSO -me 38
WSO - her 30
2x DD ages 6 and 4
D-day #1 APR08 (supposed ONS w/OM)
D-day #2 1JAN13 2x ONS w/OM and OW, and a ONS
D-day #3 22APR14 (admitted to another ONS that she didn't fess up to during DDay #2)

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TattoodChinaDoll ( member #34602) posted at 6:28 PM on Wednesday, April 16th, 2014

I think the danger of an in between length is it looking very 90's. The first thought I had when I saw that Beckham picture was Rob Thomas in the 90's. And please don't get those highlights! I had hair like that....in the 90's!!!! You catching my drift?

Me: 35
WH: 37 TimeToManUp
Married: 14 years, together 19 years
3 daughters: 12, 8, 6, and 2 angel babies (2013 and 2014)

D-Day: 12/21/2011
Confronted him: 12/22/2011

This is the most difficult thing I've ever done.

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Crescita ( member #32616) posted at 6:30 PM on Wednesday, April 16th, 2014

Oh yes, definitely looks better longer, just go to a stylist, let them know you don't want to spend time styling it, and get a few long layers in the front.

“Happiness cannot be pursued; it must ensue.” ― Viktor E. Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning

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simplydevastated ( member #25001) posted at 6:36 PM on Wednesday, April 16th, 2014

The middle picture is nice, the military cut is way too short.

You could probably do something like this. It's not too short. Talk to a hair stylist. They would know what would look good with the shape of your face.

[This message edited by simplydevastated at 12:36 PM, April 16th (Wednesday)]

Me - BS, 40 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS11, DD8
Getting my ducks in a row for divorce... finally (4+ D-Days too many - listed in profile.)

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 justasinger (original poster member #43031) posted at 6:38 PM on Wednesday, April 16th, 2014

ok, so I guess I'll try the stylist thing... I have done it a few times (going somewhere to have my hair cut), but I'm guessing the places I went (supercuts and the hair salon in walmart) are probably not the best place to go... So where should I go?

BSO -me 38
WSO - her 30
2x DD ages 6 and 4
D-day #1 APR08 (supposed ONS w/OM)
D-day #2 1JAN13 2x ONS w/OM and OW, and a ONS
D-day #3 22APR14 (admitted to another ONS that she didn't fess up to during DDay #2)

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tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 6:42 PM on Wednesday, April 16th, 2014

Please don't get offended but as I look at these I see something happening, your forehead is getting bigger......Which means your skull is growing, or your hair is not.

Personally I like shorter hair on men, and the older you get, and the less of it there is, the shorter it is the better it looks. Trying to keep it long to cover any recession is just icky.

Have you shaved your head before? With the Goat, and the dimples I bet you would rock that look.

BTW that's an awful lot of stuff on your chest there...... Thank you for your service Sir.

Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16 at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.

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simplydevastated ( member #25001) posted at 6:42 PM on Wednesday, April 16th, 2014

Find some kind of salon/day spa. They stylists at my salon are constantly going for training to keep up with trends etc...

Me - BS, 40 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS11, DD8
Getting my ducks in a row for divorce... finally (4+ D-Days too many - listed in profile.)

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Crescita ( member #32616) posted at 6:47 PM on Wednesday, April 16th, 2014

So where should I go?

Ask your friends on Facebook or look up some Yelp reviews.

“Happiness cannot be pursued; it must ensue.” ― Viktor E. Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning

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 justasinger (original poster member #43031) posted at 6:50 PM on Wednesday, April 16th, 2014

I don't get offended, not easily anyway... I appreciate any comments. I think I've always had a long forhead though. The first two pics were from today. pic 3 and 4 were from 2010, and pic 5 was 2007

BSO -me 38
WSO - her 30
2x DD ages 6 and 4
D-day #1 APR08 (supposed ONS w/OM)
D-day #2 1JAN13 2x ONS w/OM and OW, and a ONS
D-day #3 22APR14 (admitted to another ONS that she didn't fess up to during DDay #2)

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jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 6:56 PM on Wednesday, April 16th, 2014

I like the length in pic #1. Maybe add some long layers. More importantly, you should do what ever makes you feel good about yourself.

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