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hope2014 posted 4/16/2014 13:02 PM

My STBXH and I have negotiated the terms of our dissolution. I retained counsel weeks ago and she is in the process of drafting documents. He originally said that he would retain counsel only to review the final documents because it could not afford to pay for an attorney to do any more than that.

He provided me with the name of his counsel. Unfortunately, my counsel has stated that his counsel has a tendency to be argumentative and may slow things down. I believe I am being more than fair in the settlement terms and am prepared to fight for those terms (through counsel, of course), but I'm feeling anxious about the entire situation. His first meeting with this counsel was today. I'm praying that things move forward smoothly and any issues can be (and are) resolved quickly. With a bit of luck, we should be divorced by the beginning of June.

norabird posted 4/16/2014 13:04 PM

((((hope2014))))

Step by step. You're moving forward, focus on that. Part of it is out of your hands, so accept that as much as you can, and focus on doing the best with your end of things.

one2ndchance posted 4/16/2014 13:53 PM

He originally said that he would retain counsel only to review the final documents because it could not afford to pay for an attorney to do any more than that

If this is how your stbx feels, even though his lawyer may be argumentative, stbx may realize that arguing costs money. If it's a fair agreement, he may just tell his L he's ok with it. Let's think positive

hope2014 posted 4/16/2014 15:05 PM

Thanks, one. You are right. I need to think positively and not assume the worst. I've unfortunately learned to be a glass is half-empty sorta girl. Something to work on . . .

devistatedmom posted 4/16/2014 17:14 PM

Hope, you know he's all about the cash, and won't want to spend money on arguing. He probably will come back and question something his L brings up. If it's something you believe is proper, and you aren't willing to change, use his lack of wanting to spend to your advantage.

"No, I think that clause is proper. It's what the state agrees is fair, and I believe it's what I deserve, but, if you want to go to court over it, go at it."

Say it very calmly and evenly. Look him in the eye. Then walk away. Chances are, he will let it go when he sees you aren't just going to agree.

Even though he has an argumentative L, they can only argue if the client says go for it.

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