I consulted with a lawyer about 6 weeks ago. Had to take a loan from my retirement fund to make this happen, but finally retained a lawyer and filed today. STBX should be served by next week.
STBX and I have been living separately since January 2012, so this is just the legal end of things. I no longer want him back...at all. He has done so many evil and disgusting things to me since DDay that he has managed to kill whatever love I once felt for him. OW frankly deserves him.
So today, I felt...relief.
The only thing that bothers me now, is what to tell the kids. I know that I will have to have a solo conversation with DD6 and DS9 as STBX is a coward. When we originally separated, we made arrangements to tell them together. He picked them up from their afterschool program and then gave him his own explanation before I even got there. What's sad is that he told them that "he did something bad, so he couldn't live there anymore". HUH? What sick person actually tells their kids that? So of course, my kids think that when dad starts behaving himself again he can come live with us again. So now I have to break it to them that it's never going to happen.
As creepy as STBX is, I do not want to purposely paint their father in a bad light in explaining the divorce to them. What do I say? Now the real truth is "Daddy used you kidsto bring his whore into our home to babysit you so he could have orgies when Mommy went to work". What do I say to them? I do believe that they will figure their father out on their own as he tends to be as poor as a father as he was a husband, but what do I say to them now?