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User Topic: My 20 month old is a puker....
She11ybeanz
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Shocked  Posted: 9:53 PM, April 16th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My 20 month old has a very frustrating habit of making herself puke whenever she gets really upset.....usually at bedtime. How do I get her to stop??? Tonight I went in there to check on her because she was coughing and she had thrown up all over herself.... I can usually tell when she's sick and when she is doing it for attention and I don't think she is sick this time. I had to give her a bath and clean up her bed. Its awful. How do I get her to stop? We have had the same bedtime routine for over a year now.... and usually she does really well.... but every once in a while....she freaks out! I didn't realize tonight was one of those nights until I went in her room and saw the puke. I know that she hates going to bed...just like every other toddler on the planet...

But, we lay in my glider chair together and she lays on her back in my lap and drinks her warm milk before bed... and usually she goes right to bed.... but every once in a while this happens.

She used to do it at bathtime because she hated getting a bath so much...so she would cough until she puked....

UGH.... help!!!!!!


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ThoughtIKnewYa
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Default  Posted: 10:12 PM, April 16th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Awwww...DANG! (((Shelly)))

When DD was little, I would totally ignore any negative behavior, to the point of physically turning my back on her. The second she exhibited positive behavior, I would turn around and give her loads of praise.

Now, you can't exactly turn your back on this behavior, but what you CAN do is pretend like it's no big deal- like it's a diaper change or something. Without speaking or showing emotion, clean her up and put her back to bed. That way, she'll learn that this behavior is NOT the way to get your attention.


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She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 10:23 PM, April 16th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I pretty much did that....I didn't make a big deal of it except getting her out of her clothes.....(which was disgusting btw....pulling a long sleeved puked soaked top over the head of your toddler is NOT a fun experience and ALWAYS leads to a bath the next step....YUCK....

But, I prevailed....all related clothing and bedding hit the washer machine.... and I didn't give her any more dairy this time....just some baby tylenol and put the baby vicks on the bottoms of her feet "just in case" she has a real cough.... because it usually helps and put her in footie pajamas.

She fell right to sleep this time.

I hate nights like this. It terrifies me to transition her to the half rail....or a toddler bed....because I KNOW she will NEVER go to bed once she has that freedom..... I dread it....

I'm trying to keep her in the crib as long as I can. She hasn't tried to climb out....so that's a plus..... but if I thought she wouldn't be up all night long I would go ahead and transition her....but I don't know when the right time will be...... I just feel at a lost right now....


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

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ThoughtIKnewYa
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Default  Posted: 10:34 PM, April 16th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((shelly)))

It's a really rough time for a parent, I know.

I didn't transition mine until she was climbing out of the crib, but I did it the first time, so she wouldn't get hurt. One thing that helped me (because H was usually at work, so I could actually pull this off) was to turn off all lights, TVs, everything about an hour before her bedtime (sometimes, I would even go lay in my bed, so she would get the point). This gave her melatonin time to work and she would go right to sleep. She's almost 15 now and, even though her bed time has changed, she's always ready right on time. Now, we don't turn everything off, anymore, but she still goes to bed around 9PM.

pulling a long sleeved puked soaked top over the head of your toddler is NOT a fun experience and ALWAYS leads to a bath the next step....YUCK....
Not pleasant at all!

Maybe you could try bathing her with that bedtime bath stuff an hour or so before bed to get her nice and relaxed?


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whyohwhyohwhy
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Default  Posted: 8:00 AM, April 17th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just a thought....

Maybe eliminate dairy altogether for a while?

My older daughter would projectile vomit if she had anything with any milk/dairy in it, or if I did when I was breastfeeding her. She was the only kid I've ever seen who could actually barf on the ceiling. It stopped when we eliminated everything with any milk or dairy in it in any form.


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tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 8:39 AM, April 17th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yup I agree with eliminating the dairy at bedtime. I have 2 kids with reflux. They did fine with soymilk but giving them real milk it was a disaster.

Cleaning up vomit, and doing baths when you are ready to go to bed is no fun at all. I had to give my kids soymilk until they were big lops. Now my DD(14) still doesn't like real milk, but she will drink a half gallon of almond milk in 48 hours.

As far as transitioning out of the crib, if she isn't trying to get out, and you don't need it for the next one, leave her in it. I transitioned DS from crib to a real bed about 3 months after his second birthday, and that was because sister was coming shortly. I wanted him settled into it, and not dealing with hopping up and coming out of his room when I had a newborn to contend with as well.

We got him a twin bed, a nice one, I skipped the toddler bed thing. We put matress and box springs on the floor first (for like 2 weeks) against the wall on one side, and safety rail on the other. Once he was used to that, we put up the real bed, again against the wall and safety rail. He Liked/LOVED being in a big boy bed, because he was a big boy now, and he stayed in it, no issues with him getting up and running around. NOW the other kid???? She was a little over 2 when we put her in a real bed, this is the one who lives her life in a musical, so the rule was when you go to bed you stay there, unless you have to potty, or are sick. She would come out a thousand times at first, and then she would play in her bed/room for a long time before finally falling asleep. She entertained herself, then would go to sleep. Then around 5 we had issues with her being quiet for about 10 minutes and then getting up and playing. She would stay in her room, but would play with dolls/toys, and sing and dance for them all. It usually took getting yelled at, threat of taking the favorite doll/stuffed animal of the moment away for her to settle in.

Anyway. If she isn't trying to monkey out of the crib, let her stay in there. Get away from the real milk at bedtime, try some soymilk, or almondmilk.


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lost_in_toronto
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Default  Posted: 9:02 AM, April 17th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My toddler is two and a half and she is still in her crib. I'm keeping her there until she tries to climb out. The kid climbs on EVERYTHING but for some reason not the crib.

A few people I know put a baby gate across the outside of the bedroom door so that even if their toddler is getting out of bed, they aren't getting out of the bedroom...I'm keeping that in mind for when we do put her into a bed!


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She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 9:10 AM, April 17th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My older daughter would projectile vomit if she had anything with any milk/dairy in it, or if I did when I was breastfeeding her. She was the only kid I've ever seen who could actually barf on the ceiling. It stopped when we eliminated everything with any milk or dairy in it in any form.

See...I've thought about the dairy issue...BUT...she was breastfed...and I didn't cut out any dairy....and she was fine....strictly breastfed too for the first 6 months and then at a year she got whole milk and never turned back after 13 months.....she guzzles it down at daycare at every meal and they have never had an incident. I really don't think its the dairy.....I think its a behavioral thing and she just gets SOOOOO worked up that she coughs....and the coughing leads to the puking....

Its just unfortunate that the puking usually involves curdled milk since that's the last thing she gets before bed.....maybe cut it out at bedtime to save mommy from that joyous cleanup???

A few people I know put a baby gate across the outside of the bedroom door so that even if their toddler is getting out of bed, they aren't getting out of the bedroom...I'm keeping that in mind for when we do put her into a bed!

Good idea!!! I like this.....it may or may not work. My daughter was so funny when I put up the baby gates blocking the 15 stairs at my dad's house from the bottom floor to the top....

She turned the corner to try to climb the stairs....thinking no one was paying attention (but my dad and nana were watching her from the hallway)....she saw the gate......went "Ut-Oh" and then yanked on it.....it didn't move....and then sat down on the bottom step (because there is one step below the baby gate) and just sat there in front of it....completely perplexed!

[This message edited by She11ybeanz at 9:13 AM, April 17th (Thursday)]


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Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
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survivingslowly
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Default  Posted: 9:59 AM, April 17th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My dd did the exact same thing. She would actually stick her fingers down her throat!

I had always given her a sippy cup of warm milk too b/f bed. When I eliminated that, she didn't puke.

I think having the milk in her system made it easier for her to puke.

So, we took away the night time milk and she stopped puking.

I, too, think she did it for attention.

Try taking away the night time milk. It might help, and in any case, you are right, clean up would be a lot easier.

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StrongerOne
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Default  Posted: 10:04 AM, April 17th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Stop the dairy after dinner. Maybe even none at dinner -- water instead. If she fusses, make a big deal out of water with a fancy lemon slice like the grownups get at fancy restaurants, or a strawberry in it, with a crazy straw.

It may not be the dairy, but you already know dairy is horrible to clean up, and the smell and feel of it probably make her vomit even more, once she's puked a bit. Also, she may be getting some reflux or burps which taste like dairy, which again, may taste nasty = coughing = vomiting. Other stuff may not taste bad enough when burped up to accelerate the coughing.

She's likely getting enough dairy the rest of the day for the fat, vitamins, and calories. Doesn't need it at dinner too.

I'm sure you are doing a calming bed time ritual. YOu might lengthen out reading while she is tucked in bed to say half an hour. Also, music or an audio book playing low can help -- turn it on right after good nights, then lights out. Have something that will play for at least half an hour, so that she isn't roused when it stops.

This too shall pass!



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