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TrustedHer posted 4/17/2014 00:01 AM

20 miles from home, at Harbor Freight.

He didn't see me at first. I said "Hi, <same first name as me>"

We chatted a minute or two. He asked how I was, I said that I was having some bad times, he thought it was about his sister... But it wasn't. It was about a couple of bad things that have happened to me, involving unemployment, water damage to my house, and a problem with my road/dam/driveway.

He told me he still sticks up for me with family, which I suppose is nice. Not that it matters; they're her family, not mine.

I just laughed and walked away after a bit.

Jrazz posted 4/17/2014 00:56 AM

What a relief that you can laugh instead of shudder after an encounter with an ex-IL.

I hope your bad times level out, and your good times ramp up.

(((TrustedHer)))

deena posted 4/17/2014 01:32 AM

The first time running into X-IL's I am not looking forward to.

Sounded like you handled it very well.

Congratulations!!!!

Did you feel as calm as you sound in your post

((((TrustedHer)))))

Klove posted 4/17/2014 07:08 AM

Ex-IL have been away all winter and get back this weekend. We live on the same street. Small place.
Dreaddddddinggggg.
MIL will give me this pathetic shoulder squeeze of supposed empathy but will completely blameshift saying we had a volatile marriage a "must do what is best for the boys..."

stronger08 posted 4/17/2014 08:26 AM

I'm friendly with a few of my XIL'S. Just yesterday while picking up my son for Easter vacation I chatted a bit with my XBIL. He have no problems between us and he actually said to me once that I should D my XWW because she does not appreciate the man I am. I laughed it off at the time, but the dude was right. I'm not friends with my XIL'S, but I can have friendly conversations with some of them.