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Topic: Ran into Ex-BiL

TrustedHer
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Member # 23328

Posted: 12:01 AM, April 17th (Thursday), 2014

20 miles from home, at Harbor Freight.

He didn't see me at first. I said "Hi, <same first name as me>"

We chatted a minute or two. He asked how I was, I said that I was having some bad times, he thought it was about his sister... But it wasn't. It was about a couple of bad things that have happened to me, involving unemployment, water damage to my house, and a problem with my road/dam/driveway.

He told me he still sticks up for me with family, which I suppose is nice. Not that it matters; they're her family, not mine.

I just laughed and walked away after a bit.

Take care of yourself. There's a great future out there. It won't come to you; you have to go to it.

Posts: 5272 | Registered: Mar 2009 | From: DeepInTheHeartOf, TX

Jrazz
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Member # 31349

Posted: 12:56 AM, April 17th (Thursday), 2014

What a relief that you can laugh instead of shudder after an encounter with an ex-IL.

I hope your bad times level out, and your good times ramp up.

(((TrustedHer)))

"All the wars, all the hatred, all the ignorance in the world come out of being so invested in our opinions. And at bottom, those opinions are merely our efforts to escape the underlying uneasiness of being human. - Pema Chodron

Posts: 20709 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California

deena
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Member # 27275

Posted: 1:32 AM, April 17th (Thursday), 2014

The first time running into X-IL's I am not looking forward to.

Sounded like you handled it very well.

Congratulations!!!!

Did you feel as calm as you sound in your post

((((TrustedHer)))))

Relationships are like glass. Sometimes it's
better to leave them broken than to hurt
yourself putting it back together.

Posts: 3238 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Canada

Klove
♀ 42096
Member # 42096

Posted: 7:08 AM, April 17th (Thursday), 2014

Ex-IL have been away all winter and get back this weekend. We live on the same street. Small place.
Dreaddddddinggggg.
MIL will give me this pathetic shoulder squeeze of supposed empathy but will completely blameshift saying we had a volatile marriage a "must do what is best for the boys..."

"But stand still is all I did
Love like ours is never fixed
Still I stuck around
I did behave
I saved you every time
I was a fool for love
I was a fool for love"

Posts: 294 | Registered: Jan 2014

stronger08
♂ 16953
Member # 16953

Posted: 8:26 AM, April 17th (Thursday), 2014

I'm friendly with a few of my XIL'S. Just yesterday while picking up my son for Easter vacation I chatted a bit with my XBIL. He have no problems between us and he actually said to me once that I should D my XWW because she does not appreciate the man I am. I laughed it off at the time, but the dude was right. I'm not friends with my XIL'S, but I can have friendly conversations with some of them.

You cant eat soup with chopsticks.

Posts: 6112 | Registered: Nov 2007

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