Topic: Xwh owes a lot in taxes
Member # 23386
| Posted: 7:18 AM, April 17th (Thursday), 2014|
And told me we need to talk. He lost 2 dependants from the divorce on tax returns and it is costing him. I don't feel bad for him in the slightest. He had plenty of opportunities to stay married and quite frankly, I'm glad he didn't try very hard. I'm glad he sucked at reconciliation and it set me free! I'm so much happier now. It feels a little strange because I'm an empathetic person, so this indifference is new. But damn I'm happy to finally be here.
[This message edited by imwideawake at 7:18 AM, April 17th (Thursday)]
Together 21 years.
Me: BW, now 45
3 daughters, now 20, 19, & 16
Posts: 953 | Registered: Mar 2009
Member # 10866
| Posted: 7:45 AM, April 17th (Thursday), 2014|
Ugh, WS pity parties are so annoying! It's like "Let me get out the world's smallest violin!" Also, they really demonstrate who the WS is - that everything happens *to* them yet they have zero responsibility for their actions or the resultant consequences.
Me BW Him XSAWH
DDays 2006, and then numerous more
"In life, unlike chess, the game continues after checkmate." - Asimov
"Be patient and tough; someday this pain will be useful to you." - Ovid
Posts: 15496 | Registered: Jun 2006
Member # 32258
| Posted: 8:08 AM, April 17th (Thursday), 2014|
You could always offer him some cheese to go with that "whine".
BH = Me
The first true sense of calm I felt in YEARS was when I filed for D...
Divorced 9/2/14 and loving life!
Posts: 2002 | Registered: May 2011 | From: VA
Member # 35229
| Posted: 8:41 AM, April 17th (Thursday), 2014|
OPP (Other Peoples Problems)
NMP (Not My Problem)
Care Factor Zero.
Interesting that he thinks his problem is your problem. We need to talk? Nah - we really don't.
I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!
Posts: 5912 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
Member # 42510
| Posted: 9:23 AM, April 17th (Thursday), 2014|
Poor tax planning on his part doesn't constitute an emergency on your part!!!
"Somebody get this walking carpet out of my way." Princess Leia, Star Wars
Posts: 296 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: Kansas
Member # 16921
| Posted: 9:56 AM, April 17th (Thursday), 2014|
My X did the same thing, wanting a pity party. We split the boys for tax purposes. His idea. So I gave him DS1 and I took DS2. Now I did it this way on purpose. DS1 is 8 years older than DS2. When X could no longer "write-off" DS1 he stared with the every other year crap with DS2 - absolutely not I said. Whenever, X brings up crap my standard line is "Read the Agreement". That usually shuts him up!!!
WH - 48
BS (me) - 50
Son - 25
Son - 17
Dday #1 - 10/31/07
Dday #2 - 12/23/07
Dday #1,000,000 - 12/23/09 - found out EA was PA
Reconciling or at least trying. We have reconciled through the A, but he still doesn't get it when it comes to p
Posts: 4472 | Registered: Nov 2007
Member # 33226
| Posted: 10:09 AM, April 17th (Thursday), 2014|
Yay for indifference!!!
You can call me NIK
“The most difficult times for many of us are the ones we give ourselves.”
― Pema Chödrön
Posts: 29908 | Registered: Aug 2011
Member # 41268
| Posted: 10:21 AM, April 17th (Thursday), 2014|
I owed a lot of taxes this year myself.
And you should care about your exH's tax situation about as much as you care about mine (a total stranger).
(big difference is that I knew this was happening and planned for it)
Posts: 148 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: AL
Member # 18522
| Posted: 12:12 PM, April 17th (Thursday), 2014|
Poor widdle muffin!
Do NOT give up the tax deductions. Don't even respond to him. What a jagoff.
2 kids: DD16 and DS19
Him: The Assclown NPD
OW: "friend" of 15 years
Divorced! Feb. 2010
Everybody, soon or late, sits down to a banquet of consequences.
~Robert Louis Stevenson
Posts: 7954 | Registered: Mar 2008 | From: SoCal
Member # 22870
| Posted: 2:42 PM, April 17th (Thursday), 2014|
You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright
Posts: 8184 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
Member # 38378
| Posted: 3:56 PM, April 19th (Saturday), 2014|
Taxes are one of the longest we can go without paying. I think maybe people don't pay them thinking they can use the money for other things. But even IRS only waits so long.
Good for you. Lack of empathy is tough but a source of strength.
You gave me nothing and now it's all I've got - Bono
A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess
Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.
Posts: 2564 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: New England
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