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DepressedDaddy posted 4/17/2014 08:07 AM

I'm so happy I have an IC appointment today. Definitely needing it. I just need to make it till then. Then I'll figure out a new goal for myself for tonight.

Then a new goal for tomorrow...so on and so on.

The next few days, weeks and months are going to be tough. We have a lot of changes on the divorce/moving/responsibilities horizon.

Day by day. Hour by hour. Minute by minute. I can do it, even if it appears I can't. I will continue to always move forward, even if it is inch. The mile will come in time. [repeat] [repeat] [repeat]

SBB posted 4/17/2014 08:36 AM

The early days are the hardest. I remember feeling like a zombie for those first few months. I'm surprised I was able to keep my shit together. But I did. I had meltdowns, panic attacks and cried so much I barely wee'd. But I kept moving forward - even if I was crawling sometimes.

A year from now you'll look back and be amazed at how the hell you made it through - you'll also be really proud of yourself.

You've got this. You're in the eye of the storm right now but I promise sunshine is coming.

You'll catch yourself doing a big belly laugh, or smiling for no reason - even daydreaming about your wide open future. The possibilities are endless. Scary but exciting.

But that is all later. Right now you're walking around wondering how the hell everyone is acting so normal - like they don't even notice the world has just turned on its axis.

Be gentle with yourself.

kg201 posted 4/17/2014 08:53 AM

The IC visits were a godsend in the early weeks. Talking through it all helped me immensely. My sister also made herself available whenever I needed to talk, even though she is on the other coast.

Hang in there. It will get better.

norabird posted 4/17/2014 11:27 AM

You've got the right attitude. All these steps will add up to take you someplace better. Really.