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Only you guys will appreciate how hard it is to keep focus and produce at work with all of this crap going on in my personal life. For those of you who aren't familiar with the academic world, tenure involves 6 years of hard work to prove yourself. In the last year, your peers (professors from other universities, professors from your own university) review your work and decide whether you're worthy or not. Students weigh in. Everyone gives an opinion, and it's a very public thing. There are seven levels of review. (Really.)

While I was on the tenure track, no only did I have to deal with a cheating husband, I had a special needs kid (my DD didn't walk until 3 and had an ASD diagnosis -- basically, was seriously delayed in many ways), a husband who traveled a lot for work, a husband who was unemployed for 2 years, my parents' house burned down and my dad had a stroke that left him disabled and eventually killed him, my mom had open heart surgery... and lots more.

So I think I can brag a little here and say that I'm pretty damn proud of myself for being able to do a good job despite all of this. And that I've had enough stress in the last few years to last quite a while... So, please, universe, can this be the start of a slightly more fun stage?

Woot! Awesome news!

Tenure is becoming more and more difficult to get, so you're golden.

I'm so impressed, that is awesome!

That is so awesome, Blobette!!!!

Hooray for you! Hearty congratulations...I'm familiar with how difficult achieving tenure is, understand the infidelity impact on life, and have an ASD child as well, so I truly think you have massive rights to brag WTG!

Congrats, Blobette. That is so awesome and totally deserved. I hope you are very proud of yourself.

Congrats!!!!

Good for you! What an accomplishment!

That is an impressive accomplishment! Congratulations!

Thanks, guys. I feel very lucky in that the perfect job for someone of my background came up -- I didn't have a typical academic career, but was able to transition into an academic job anyway. And in my field there are quite a lot of non-TT positions, where you have to raise your own money through grants etc, so I was very lucky to have gotten a job where my salary is guaranteed and any extra money I raise is gravy. (Although the university puts a lot of pressure on people to get those, and that's the next stage of my career.) Bottom line, I am indeed lucky to have found the "perfect" job for someone like me.

Congrats. Such a wonderful accomplishment. :)

WOW! You GO!!!! What an amazing accomplishment!

That is truly awesome. Congrats to you...

Picture the hand clapping emoticon. You go Blobette!!

Congratulations! What a huge accomplishment, Blobette!

Wonderful news! Great opportunities for you to enjoy your career with one less thing to stress over!

good for you!

Awesome!! My dream is to go back and get a PhD and teach...

Enjoy this accomplishment, it is HUGE!

WoW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Congrats!!!

I know more than most what you put in to get that. You are AWESOME!!!

Congratulations!!!!!!