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Blobette posted 4/17/2014 08:28 AM

Only you guys will appreciate how hard it is to keep focus and produce at work with all of this crap going on in my personal life. For those of you who aren't familiar with the academic world, tenure involves 6 years of hard work to prove yourself. In the last year, your peers (professors from other universities, professors from your own university) review your work and decide whether you're worthy or not. Students weigh in. Everyone gives an opinion, and it's a very public thing. There are seven levels of review. (Really.)

While I was on the tenure track, no only did I have to deal with a cheating husband, I had a special needs kid (my DD didn't walk until 3 and had an ASD diagnosis -- basically, was seriously delayed in many ways), a husband who traveled a lot for work, a husband who was unemployed for 2 years, my parents' house burned down and my dad had a stroke that left him disabled and eventually killed him, my mom had open heart surgery... and lots more.

So I think I can brag a little here and say that I'm pretty damn proud of myself for being able to do a good job despite all of this. And that I've had enough stress in the last few years to last quite a while... So, please, universe, can this be the start of a slightly more fun stage?

Williesmom posted 4/17/2014 08:30 AM

Woot! Awesome news!

FaithFool posted 4/17/2014 08:32 AM

Tenure is becoming more and more difficult to get, so you're golden.

I'm so impressed, that is awesome!

sad12008 posted 4/17/2014 08:34 AM

That is so awesome, Blobette!!!!

Hooray for you! Hearty congratulations...I'm familiar with how difficult achieving tenure is, understand the infidelity impact on life, and have an ASD child as well, so I truly think you have massive rights to brag WTG!

SisterMilkshake posted 4/17/2014 08:40 AM

Congrats, Blobette. That is so awesome and totally deserved. I hope you are very proud of yourself.

tushnurse posted 4/17/2014 08:41 AM

Congrats!!!!

LydiaE posted 4/17/2014 08:41 AM

Good for you! What an accomplishment!

lost_in_toronto posted 4/17/2014 08:44 AM

That is an impressive accomplishment! Congratulations!

Blobette posted 4/17/2014 08:47 AM

Thanks, guys. I feel very lucky in that the perfect job for someone of my background came up -- I didn't have a typical academic career, but was able to transition into an academic job anyway. And in my field there are quite a lot of non-TT positions, where you have to raise your own money through grants etc, so I was very lucky to have gotten a job where my salary is guaranteed and any extra money I raise is gravy. (Although the university puts a lot of pressure on people to get those, and that's the next stage of my career.) Bottom line, I am indeed lucky to have found the "perfect" job for someone like me.

Teach8 posted 4/17/2014 08:50 AM

Congrats. Such a wonderful accomplishment. :)

She11ybeanz posted 4/17/2014 09:15 AM

WOW! You GO!!!! What an amazing accomplishment!

justasinger posted 4/17/2014 09:18 AM

That is truly awesome. Congrats to you...

Pentup posted 4/17/2014 09:43 AM

Picture the hand clapping emoticon. You go Blobette!!

nowiknow23 posted 4/17/2014 10:07 AM

Congratulations! What a huge accomplishment, Blobette!

Lionne posted 4/17/2014 20:33 PM

Wonderful news! Great opportunities for you to enjoy your career with one less thing to stress over!

cayc posted 4/17/2014 20:44 PM

good for you!

Gottagetthrough posted 4/17/2014 23:31 PM

Awesome!! My dream is to go back and get a PhD and teach...

Enjoy this accomplishment, it is HUGE!

Chrysalis123 posted 4/17/2014 23:43 PM

WoW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

purplejacket4 posted 4/17/2014 23:54 PM

Congrats!!!

I know more than most what you put in to get that. You are AWESOME!!!

itainteasy posted 4/18/2014 11:21 AM

Congratulations!!!!!!